The truth is that we will all have toxic relationships in our lives from time to time… The good news is that we can all choose to learn and grow. This means taking note of when we find ourselves acting out of anger or jealousy. It also means paying attention to how free we feel to be ourselves in our relationships, or if one tends to wear us out.
Take some time to assess which of your relationships are toxic or not, as well as which of them you want to try and work on versus the ones you may need to walk away from. Throughout this process, I would encourage you to always consider your part in them. The most significant mistake we can make is to assume we aren’t to blame for any of it. Whether our role was to enable their bad behavior or just getting into the relationship in the first place, whatever it is, we need to identify it. If we don’t, we could leave a relationship only to start another that ends the same way. In each partnership, there are two people, and each plays their role. If we figure out what ours is, what’s healthy or unhealthy about it, then we can work to change. We all deserve to have relationships built on trust, love, and mutual respect. Give yourself the opportunity to cultivate them.
If you are still questioning whether or not the relationship you are in is toxic, here’s a quick quiz to help sort that out.
Are You in a Toxic Relationship?
Published with permission from Are U OK?: A Guide to Caring for Your Mental Health by Kati Morton, LMFT.