Without even realizing it, we spend most of our days being comfortable and secure. We do things and say things that make us feel safe and at peace. But, sometimes the things that keep us feeling at peace are the things we need to leave behind. We stay in toxic environments, keep relationships with the wrong people, and we say all the wrong things because those are the things that have helped us remain comfortable. The things that make us comfortable are not typically the things that will help us to improve our lives.
We keep the same friends for 20 years, live in the same city, keep vacationing in the same area without wanting to explore or learn more. By lacking the ability to seek new experiences or want change, we stay stuck in comfort but lost in unhappiness. We become attached to the wrong things while needing to replace them with things that are more suiting to who we currently are. And by ignoring what we need, we stay attached to what feels familiar instead.
So, think about what you are currently doing to stay comfortable, but yet pulling away from your happiness. Are you avoiding uncomfortable conversations about money with a partner because you fear conflict? Are you not asking for a promotion because you cannot speak up for yourself? Are you afraid to leave your hometown for a better opportunity because you don’t want to leave your friends behind? Whether it be something large or something small, some things are keeping you stuck in the comfort zone that could lead you to a better life if you would release them.
If we can release things that keep us stuck, why not realize there are better options and move on? Well… the reason people avoid reaching for better options is that they are uncertain, which then creates fear. Most people would rather stay comfortable and unhappy than take risks to find more happiness. We fear the unknown or what some may consider unsafe. But, if we learned to untrain our minds to avoid staying stuck in comfortable situations and work through fear instead, we will find more life satisfaction on the other side.
By learning that staying comfortable is sometimes that thing that holds us back, we learn to feel better at taking risks and trust the intuition that is guiding us instead. Often we ignore the intuition that is telling us to say something or do something different, but we avoid that thing because it creates fear or anxiety in us. By learning to move forward through fear and delete comfort, we will find that some of our best choices and options were waiting on the other side of comfort.