Do Men honor the Feminine? Do Women feel loved and cherished? Are Women fulfilled emotionally and sexually? Where are Men not getting it right? Where have we lost our way?
One of the most pertinent issues of our time is Equality, specifically, Gender parity and Women’s rights. Despite enjoying more freedom and rights than ever before in the history of our human existence, Women today are struggling to fully embody and express their true feminine nature. With the advent of the recent “Radical Feminist” movement, Women are less content or fulfilled than ever. Feminism in the 21st century in the West seems to have morphed into something very unpalatable. It has suddenly turned into a man hating, venomous, entitlement driven hard machinery driven by identity politics and toxic intersectionality called the ‘Third Wave of Radical Feminism’. Seems like Feminism today has a ‘Branding problem’.
They don’t take into account that Men and Women are different, that they are not supposed to be the same; that each has their own spiritual purpose and that one marries perfectly into the other.
In this pursuit of “Equality of Outcome”, we are finding a reversal of the gender balance where the Women are becoming harder, the Men softer and almost ashamed of their inherit masculine power. This leaves Women yearning for the Divine Masculine, which they feel they now have generate within themselves. This is due to the absence of real masculinity in Men around them and when a Woman is forced to be the “Man”, she is unable to be her true Feminine self.
Both the left and the right politicize and weaponize feminism and activists have hijacked the issue for their own agenda and political gain. They are replacing ‘Toxic Masculinity’ with a different version of ‘Toxic Femininity’. Ultimately men and women are mirrors and are here to merge together.
As a woman myself and someone who has done a lot of study on this issue, here I explore 5 key elements that the feminine really seeks from the masculine today:
1. Facets are ‘Assets’
Women still want a man who is confident of who he is and more importantly, of what he wants. He needs to know what kind of partner he is looking for.
This makes him more appealing and attractive. We want you to know what you kind of woman you want.
A woman is a rough diamond, she has many ‘Facets’ unto herself- polished and unpolished. It is the man’s job to make a list of the facets that are important to him so he knows how and where to find the diamond that he is looking for. Facets ultimately become ‘assets’. If the woman has the facets that a man is looking for but are not polished, it is his job to inspire her to polish them so that he can get the diamond of his choice.
When you don’t know what you want, how will you know where to find it and how will you identify it when it is right in front of you? Clue- you can’t find the woman of your dreams if you don’t know what you’re looking for and what questions to ask!
2. Devil is in the details.
Women love details! We want a man that pays attention.
All the money and charm in the world will mean nothing if you don’t show that you are paying attention to her. Trust me, we know when a man cares enough or not. It’s actually rather obvious. Some women may appear to go along even if the sincerity is not there, but they are not under any illusion that it is. They go along despite the fact and this never last long regardless.
Paying attention may seem like a small thing, but it means a lot to women.
Whether it is a first date, long-term relationship or even a marriage, learn how to take mental notes and remember them for the duration of the relationship.
As they will be used against you in the future!
3. Sex on the brain!
The sexiest organ in the human body is the brain. So you better ‘Use it or loose it, baby! Sex for women is never really physical. It’s more emotional and mental. For men, initially its always physical, but it does manifest into something more emotional once a bond has been established, usually through intimacy. It comes down to how you make her feel. Little things. We want to hear and feel like we are special and unique and the ‘One’.
4. Femininity is key
Women want the man to allow her to be her feminine self. It’s a myth to say that we need you to provide us protection or security in these days. We are not Cave men anymore. Men are not expected to go out there and hunt for the food and the woman is NOT waiting for her ‘Knight in shining armour’ back in cave. We have evolved, thankfully. We have moved on and our relationships have changed. However, on an emotional, biological and a subconscious level, Men are still expected to be a protector and savior.
There is a delicate dance to be had between the Yin/Ying, the Masculine and Feminine.
It needs to be just right. You can’t be too macho or too soft. Both are unappealing and turn us off.
The true feminine essence is to be sensual, sexual, open, erotic, soft and vulnerable. And it is your job to create the space to allow her to be her true female self.
5. Know what you bring to the table!
Women are looking for a man who knows who he is. Confidence is still very sexy. It would be a lie to say otherwise. We would get very bored very quickly. We are looking for confidence and strength in a man, but not overt confidence, more of a quite strength and inner self- assuredness.
Take inventory of the human qualities or ‘facets’ that you possess. Then start to prepare or polish those ‘facets’ into asset and make them available. Make sure you let the woman of your desire know. Don’t keep it a secret. Women are not mind readers! Please show and tell.
At the same time, also make a list of the qualities that you would like in a woman. It’s remarkable how many times, even amongst highly successful and effective men struggle to come up with 10 things on their list.
And finally to tie it all together, always remember that communication is the key. It is mandatory that you must be willing to be forthright and engaged in positive communication for the duration of you relationship and or marriage period!
Positive communication is the key to, as I call to call it ‘Modern social compromising’.
Listen, pay attention, ask questions, be direct and show that you care.
Help paint a picture in the woman’s mind and sincerely draw her to you with your authenticity and honesty. May you pick the woman of your choice and tango the night away!