What Does it Mean to be Empowered?

And why it’s probably not what you think.

I’ve been asked to do a talk next week on empowered women.

It got me thinking, what do I mean by the word empowered?

I think previously, it would have meant achieving my goals, being courageous or standing up for what I believed in.

But since last December, I had an experience that made me think of it differently.

I now think that these things happen as a result of being empowered.

I imagine the word empowered will mean different things to different people.

But here is what it means to me…

So often in life, we leave ourselves by overly focusing on the past or the future.

We avoid difficult emotions by diverting our attention to something else to make us feel better.

Sometimes we avoid what’s really wrong and look for someone else to save us.

Or we act from a place of fear.

Making decisions based on what we think is ‘possible’ or what is expected of us.

And we fear the consequences of going for what we really want in case we were to fail or worse still get hurt or rejected.

We do things to prove our self-worth from a place of unworthiness and not good enough.

And project our own guilt onto someone else in the form of anger, blame or criticism to relieve ourselves from feeling it.

But all these things stop us from being fully aligned and in our power.

They stop as taking responsibility for our lives.

They keep us disconnected, conflicted and compromised.

We live from a place of avoiding and repressing our feelings and hiding from our greatest selves.

We look for happiness in some distant future or in something or someone else

We leave ourselves. Our HOME, our centre, our strength, our WHOLENESS.

We distract ourselves from feeling what is coming up because we think it would be too painful and we wouldn’t be able to handle it.

And yet, the solution lies in making space to feel what is coming up.

In that second that it arises — we might not even notice it because we have trained ourselves so well to avoid it — to feel it and come back HOME to ourselves.

To be with what is.

To be fully here.

All of you.



Aligned and in your power.



Good enough as you are now.

Connected to the aliveness of life and strong enough to deal with all the emotions that comes with it.

When we stop looking for things outside ourselves and realise that there is nowhere to escape to..

Then there is only the present moment.

To follow our joy, our bliss, our passions.

And to take actions that does not come from our separated incomplete selves.

Empowered = Here, all of you. Now. Whole. Complete. Enough.

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