Our perspective on life also affects our health. Do we wake up focusing on everything that is wrong, or do we focus on all that is right with our world? We can move quickly, in a rush, complaining about everything in front of us, or we can move quickly, in a rush, and be fully present in the moment appreciating the world around us. Which do you choose? Constantly complaining about what is wrong raises the stress levels of everyone around us, of course including ourselves, by increasing the stress hormone cortisol.
As a part of my series about “How to Slow Down to Do More” I had the pleasure to interview Terry Wildemann ofIntuitive Leadership® LLC . Terry is a business, leadership and executive coach, speaker, and best-selling author who guides business owners and leaders to elevate their leadership, intuition, communications and resilience to the next level. She helps her clients decrease stress and improve performance mentally, physically and emotionally by working with them to cut through the emotional baggage that blocks their performance. They evolve into puzzle-solving, compassionate and intuitive leaders who influence others to achieve success with speed, ease and flow. Terry’s experience includes CEO of a manufacturing company, a consulting company, and owner of a leadership and holistic education center. Her clients include universities, entrepreneurs, banks, government agencies, chambers of commerce, and the US military. Terry authored two solo books:
“The Enchanted Boardroom: Evolve into An Unstoppable Intuitive Leader,” published by Motivational Press, and “1–800-Courtesy; Connect with a Winning Telephone Image — by Aegis Publishing. She is also a co-author of two business-consulting books, “Unlock the Power of You” and “The Innovators.”
Thank you so much for joining us, Terry! Can you tell us the “backstory” about what brought you to this specific career path?
Leadership and business ownership have been a major part of my life since my teens. I love teaching leaders and business owners how to integrate mind, body and spirit so they can lead with positive influence, grace and ease. So much of what I teach in the areas of leadership, intuition, communications, resilience and team building is fulfilling because it’s based on real world experience.
As an intense and focused person, who tends to fill my plate to overflowing in service to others, I got into trouble in the past because I didn’t know how to relax and simply enjoy the present moment. As a result, multiple burnouts caused me to lose my health and business. My children saw mom curled up on the couch for weeks recuperating and healing. The good thing about the burnout was that I said, “ENOUGH!,” and chose to get to the root cause of these experiences. I learned a lot about myself on my healing journey and became certified in many of the modalities that helped me heal from the inside out.
These experiences are the foundation of my programs, speeches and the way I coach because the learning was so raw and deep.
According to a 2006 Pew Research Report report, 26% of women and 21% of men feel that they are “always rushed”. Has it always been this way? Can you give a few reasons regarding what you think causes this prevalent feeling of being rushed?
Our lives are so full and different today than just three decades ago. Technology was not in control of our lives as it is today! It was a slower time.
Today, we are in the age of go, go, go, have to, have to, have to and need to, need to, need to!Information on anything can be found in the mini-computer called a phone that resides in the palms of our hands.We are all doing too much and rushing from one thing to another. We don’t know how to say “no” and are fueled by the “Keep up with the Jones” syndrome. Add the internet, TV and social media and there is little time to truly breathe, relax and turn off. We are in constant competition with others on various levels and the reality is we are only in competition with one person — ourselves.
Based on your experience or research can you explain why being rushed can harm our productivity, health, and happiness?
We wonder why we experience aches, pains, gain weight, are foggy and can’t think straight. There are so many reasons!
Let’s start with health first. As a society we don’t exercise, rest enough or fuel our bodies with good healthy food. Instead of taking time to prepare healthy meals because we are in a rush and live at the drive thru, we fuel our bodies with fatty and calorie filled fake stuff that resembles food. We don’t read labels and learn what we are really putting into our bodies.
Our perspective on life also affects our health. Do we wake up focusing on everything that is wrong, or do we focus on all that is right with our world? We can move quickly, in a rush, complaining about everything in front of us, or we can move quickly, in a rush, and be fully present in the moment appreciating the world around us. Which do you choose? Constantly complaining about what is wrong raises the stress levels of everyone around us, of course including ourselves, by increasing the stress hormone cortisol. Like a diet of poor food choices makes us foggy, sluggish and tired, so does a steady diet of negativity because it creates high cortisol levels that also contribute to the lack of energy, fogginess, weight gain, depression and aches and pains. It affects our relationships because, quite frankly, who wants to be around negative people?
Perspective also influences productivity. A negative mindset and attitude push people away instead of enrolling people who willingly help us. It makes things hard and challenging. A positive mindset and attitude triggers good hormones such as DHEA which influences happiness, good health and performance. It also makes things easier and somehow things always work out.
How we choose to see the world truly does make a difference.
On the flip side, can you give examples of how we can do more, and how our lives would improve if we could slow down?
There is always a gift in the challenges that we face — always. My gift of burnout sent me on an intense journey of healing. Insanity is doing the same thing over and over… something had to give so my “Inward Journey” began.
Each stress management tool I learned started with the same technique: stop, breathe, shift into your heart area and listen. I call it the Quick Shift Technique. Taking 60 seconds out of each hour to Quick Shift allows us to reduce cortisol, increase good hormones such as DHEA, think better, make better decisions and feel better. With practice you can do it in the moment and stay present leading to more mindful behavior.
My decision-making tool, The Discovery Process, integrates mind mapping with my Quick Shift tool. This simple technique guides you to stop and explore within yourself to be creative and actually accomplish more. You are guided to write your practical thoughts and ideas on one mind map followed by doing a Quick Shift and then writing what flows from the emotions and intuition on a second mind map. A third mind map combines both mind map one and two and allows you to see the differences and the similarities. This powerful tool integrates the practical, tactical and logical with the emotional, intuitive and energetic sides of oneself. It helps individuals and teams to stop, connect mind and heart and tap into a creative and logical mindset that is easy and fun. Download the tool at www.DiscoveryProcessToolkit.com
We all live in a world with many deadlines and incessant demands for our time and attention. That inevitably makes us feel rushed. Can you share with our readers 6 strategies that you use to “slow down to do more”? Can you please give a story or example for each?
1. Start the day with gratitude and appreciation — In the morning I appreciate the simple things that make a huge difference such as my warm bed, blankets and pillows and the people who made them. I appreciate my home, family, friends, pets, coffee, the food in the fridge, my clothes, computer, business, clients, etc. Spending 5 minutes doing this exercise raises the good hormone DHEA and “lubricates” your body. It helps you to become resilient and happy. You can meet the day with a smile and feel good.
2. Plan ahead — Before calling it a day, I review what needs to be done the next day. There are times my list is VERY long. I “ask” for assistance and set the intention to get it all done with ease, and miraculously things take care of themselves.
3. Traffic — Instead of getting yourself worked up about sitting in traffic, breathe deeply and stay calm. Use the time to listen to an audio book or podcast or plan a project by speaking into a recording app in your phone. I have a small bottle of bubbles in my car and during the summer I open the windows and blow bubbles when in traffic. It’s a wonderful way to keep stress in check because blowing bubbles forces you to breathe in and out.
4. Test Taking — Slow down several days before the test and get great sleep, hydrate, and Quick Shift before and during the test.
5. Meal Planning — Put meal planning and cooking on the weekends. Make it an opportunity for family time and turn it into a fun experience. Freeze the food into individual portions that can go into a slow cooker. Meals are ready when you come home saving prep and cooking time during the busy week and allowing time for relaxing or doing homework with kids.
6. “Me” Time — Take 60 seconds an hour to practice Quick Shift. Breathe and shift into your chest area, think of something that makes you feel good and stay there as long as you can. This continues the practice from the morning, thus keeping you in harmony. Schedule play time and clear your mind doing something meaningful away from your work.
How do you define “mindfulness”? Can you give an example or story?
Mindfulness is tuning-in and being aware of what is going on around you. The more mindful and aware you become, the sharper your intuition becomes. It’s about treating others with compassion, care, and kindness.It’s very simple to do when you begin to focus on others instead of yourself.
Can you give examples of how people can integrate mindfulness into their everyday lives?
Recently, I was walking in a citywhere drivers are very impatient and hit their horns constantly. An elderly man was crossing the street with a walker, and drivers wanting to take a right turn started beeping at him. It was horrifying to watch, and I ran to make sure he did not get rattled. He was fine but I must admit it was something that made me very sad. All I could think of was what if it was my 93-year-old dad they were doing that to?
Simple things such as picking up coffee for a co-worker, paying it forward at a toll booth or drive-thru window are samples of being mindful.
Do you have any mindfulness tools that you find most helpful at work?
Quick Shift makes you more aware naturally. You are in your body, see things differently and feel differently with practice. Things like opening doors for others, helping another put on or take off their coat, offering a pen to someone who doesn’t have one, are all examples of mindfulness and manners and civility.
What are your favorite books, podcasts, or resources that inspire you to use mindfulness tools or practices
My own show, www.Your7thSense.com, interviews business people and professionals about how intuition and mindfulness have influenced their lives.
A recent read, “Outwitting the Devil” by Napoleon Hill, shares thoughts about the power of mindfulness, awareness, and most importantly, critical thinking. Integrating these tools avoids the “sheeple” mentality of following the crowd and allows for individual thought and action.
Can you please give us your favorite “Life Lesson Quote”? Can you share how that was relevant to you in your life?
My dad always said, “You get a lot more with honey than with vinegar.” Putting it into practice creates mindfulness because you treat others well, with kindness and compassion. Dad taught me to always be kind to others and today it’s what I teach leaders, sales and customer service personnel.
You are a person of great influence. If you could inspire a movement that would bring the most amount of good to the most amount of people, what would that be? You never know what your idea can trigger. 🙂
People underestimate the power of their intuition and how slowing down and increasing resilience allows them to listen to it clearly. They ignore their “gut” feelings, the images that come, the words they hear and the nudges that will not go away. It is not logical! They think it’s “woo-woo” and fail to understand it is a gift given at birth, and as important as being practical and logical. Through Intuitive LeadershipÒ I am creating a movement to help leaders and business owners integrate the practical, tactical and logical with the emotional, energetic, intuitive and spiritual with critical thinking. The results arehighly resilient, grounded and impactful influencers who integrate the logical brain, intuition and a courageous heart to lead well in business and life. They understand the importance of play and “tuning-in” to achieve peak performance. This movement has led me to create two missions.
Mission One is to help business owners, who have been in business at least 4 years or more, to honor and integrate all sides of themselves to achieve high performance levels that grow their businesses. The courses offered through my new online Intuitive Leadership Business Wisdom School will do just that.
Mission Two is to help single parents start a business to put food on the table. My “SMILE” Initiative (Strategies for Management, Leadership and Intuitive Leadership) is a socially conscious program that will draw on sponsorships and offer scholarships to our students and help them set the foundation, expand and grow their business and themselves.
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Thank you so much for these insights! This was so inspiring!