Want to Be a Leader? Don’t Do These Things | Michael Ralby

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Leadership is like walking on a tightrope. However, if you do it the wrong way, you could ruin your perception as the leader of the group. Therefore, if you want to be a leader, don’t do these following things:

Criticize Constantly

Criticizing doesn’t look good on a leader. It might seem like you are helping them understand an area to improve on. In reality, it makes them resent you and has the opposite effect.

Blame Everyone Else

Leaders don’t blame others. Even if it someone’s fault that the situation exists, you always take the responsibility to resolve it. In this way, you prevent placing the control over your life in others’ hands.

Complain About Everything

Complaining makes you look like an negative person. People want to be led by positive people. In addition, complaining puts you in the wrong mindset and prevents clear thinking.

Dress Poorly

Dress how you want to be treated. In an ideal world people would not judge others by their clothes. But in reality, how you present yourself affects how much people value your opinions.

Make Others the Object of a Joke

Having a sense of humor is okay. In fact, it is a great quality of a true leader. Don’t hesitate to poke fun of yourself, but avoid making others feel like they are being picked on.

Be Vague About Your Vision

Your vision is a key part of your leadership potential. But if you want people to follow your lead, you need to make your ideas clear. If they are murky, people won’t feel confident in them.

Lack Confidence

Confidence is a life skill that takes work. However, as you develop it your ability to influence others will increase. Focus on what you are great at to increase your confidence in the moment.

Avoid Eye Contact

Looking away too much shows that you are not sure of your words. Look others in the eyes. Don’t stare too hard, but make it clear that you are listening with more than your ears.

Leading is a skill that takes time to develop, and we all have bad habits. So if you do some of the things above, don’t be too hard on yourself. But work to improve your leadership ability every day by cutting them out and replacing them with winning habits that lead to more success.

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