Rarely are concepts actually absolute; as most things are dependent on perspective, and are therefore relative.
One must take the good with the bad. It’s the balance of life.
This week’s unlikely defendant was none other than Ellen DeGeneres, America’s favorite liberal LGBQT talk show host.
Like the “Generous Queen” (as Ms. Nicki Minaj so eloquently established), I myself have found it extremely difficult to stay on one position with G.W. Bush.
This has been dubbed ‘unable to stand ground,’ but this begs the question:
If one is standing ground, is it really possible for one to move forward toward change?
I believe it’s not—we’d all be sticks-in-the-mud.
As a woman with Middle Eastern roots, I do find it difficult to forget what was done in the Middle East during the eight-year reign of once President G. W. Bush—as the region is still in ruins because of those choices.
However, just like with any argument in the world—there is more than one side in every debate.
While we can’t ignore the way President Bush dealt with the Middle East; we also can’t ignore the monumental good he did tackling AIDS in Africa either.
When the liberal queen herself, generously, offered defense of her friendship with the former US President, she most likely didn’t do it with the notion of agreeing with his past political policies. Instead she offered new possible conversations and new possible paths to equity.
With that being said, however, the said Texas Cowboy was no match for Mark Rufflin’ Bushy Feathers (obviously, while I mean this with the utmost respect, I am thoroughly enjoying the Texas theme here, maybe even a little too much, but if the boot fits…).
When fellow celebrity, Mark Ruffalo, chimed in with a fierce heart, he drew a wonderfully clear and concise conclusion about accountability and where he thought the discrepancy lies:
“Sorry, until George W. Bush is brought to justice for the crimes of the Iraq War, (including American-lead torture, Iraqi deaths & displacement, and the deep scars—emotional & otherwise—inflicted on our military that served his folly), we can’t even begin to talk about kindness.”
And surprise— his opinion had nothing to do with Ellen personally, and everything to do with his belief and why the notion made absolutely no sense to him—because, contrary to the initial statement about relativity:
Kindness should be absolute.
This is to say: it’s ok to debate, it’s ok to argue, as long as one does so, logically, with the intention to find a solution and/or middle ground. Otherwise, it’s just fighting, and we don’t need any more of that.
If we don’t allow for change; it will never happen. We will continue the cycle we are in, and there will be no room for transformation.
Instead of crucifying Ellen DeGeneres, why can’t she be recognized as a caliber for change, or beacon for hope? Someone who can successfully bridge the gap, and get the answers and outcomes we want.
We are living in a time where politics and entertainment are married. I urge you to see the opportunity here.
Let’s build those bridges, people. Candid and open conversations are the best weapons we have in 2019.
Personally, I would LOVE to see Ellen get G. W. Bush in the studio—because if there’s a pair of individuals who can get answers without causing uproar—it’s Ellen DeGeneres and Mark Ruffalo.
Ring ‘em in guys—kindly.