In the conclusion of this 3-Part blog series, Trilby Johnson shares 3 ways to cultivate forgiveness and move away from anger.
Forgiveness is often misconstrued to be an emotion. It’s not! Forgiveness is a process or action that you have to make to arrive somewhere new. As with any process, the focus needs to be on the desired outcome. So, what is it that we are looking to achieve with forgiveness? Is it peace, love, relief, freedom, no more pain, etc?
Many people struggle with the notion of forgiveness. Although they may desire to achieve it, so many don’t know how because we were never really given the instructions. Religion speaks of forgiveness as something bestowed by God and this left many of us feeling that it was a herculean effort and puts it out of reach. So how does one forgive?
Here are some of the aspects you can consider and use to help with forgiveness:
Perhaps the biggest step in the process of forgiveness, either of ourselves or another, is acknowledging that we are not a victim. When we are coming from a place of judgment – who’s wrong and who’s right – then we are a victim of circumstances. Accepting the ways things are can be a challenge as long as we are seeking justification. Sometimes, there is no justification and to be able to move forward, requires making a choice and walking on. The secret to successfully moving away from feeling and behaving like a victim is to transmute any energetic triggers to the situation and persons involved so that there are no loose ends. Working with many clients, I have often found this to be the quickest and easier way to remove patterns of victimhood buried deep within the subconscious and even often related to past lifetimes. Exploring one’s soul plan can also offer insight and bring relief as to why events happen like they did. Ultimately. however, to be free of victimhood requires taking responsibility in the present and moving forward no longer weighed down by the past. Often weight issues are linked energetically to unresolved patterns of guilt, shame, and blame. This is very important to address. The ’28 Days FAT Diet‘ Online Programme is specifically designed to provide support to the body-mind-soul during this process of learning to forgive.
What does it really mean to forgive? As a lover of languages, I love playing with words and specifically looking up their original meanings. Language has changed so much over time and particularly in the last 100 years, with words often taking on new nuances. Most people today adhere to the religious interpretation of the word forgive that comes from the Latin root “perdonare,” which in English is ‘to pardon.’ The original Latin meaning, however, was “to give completely, without reservation.” When I read this, it’s like a light went on in my head. This definition made total sense, in light of what I knew about the law of attraction. In that moment I understood that forgiveness was about giving to myself first. The pieces of the puzzle fell into place. Forgiveness is not about pardoning someone else. It is about giving the peace of mind, healing, happiness, love; whatever is required to oneself, first! Another nail in the coffin of the victim mentality. Forgiveness saves the day!
Earlier, I mentioned the importance of transmuting the energetic imprint that bind us subconsciously. There are several ways to do this. One such way is using Dr. Ihaleakala Hew Len’s ”Self I-Dentity Through Ho’opononpono’ (SITH), popularized by Joe Vitale.
The work that Dr. Len did in healing prisoners is remarkable and I feel highlights that by healing ourselves we can heal others and also that we are all connected. This relates to forgiveness and we must ‘give’ to ourselves first, the love and respect we are looking ‘for’ and want to experience. This is how we set our vibrational frequency.
As has been laid out in this ‘How to turn anger into forgiveness 3-part series,’ it is important to first understand what an emotion is and its components. Then, with the understanding that anger is a secondary emotion, it allows to take a step back from the emotion and to investigate what is really behind the angry behaviour. Lastly, bringing it full circle with the process of forgiveness, we are invited to be our own nurturer and so fulfill our own needs in healthy and constructive ways so we can drop the behaviour of victimhood, once and for all! This is how we can find the peace and love that ultimately sources every emotion without constraints.
Originally published at blog.thewellnessuniverse.com