As the aging process begins to accelerate in our own lives – the more people we tend to know and the more relationships we are likely to cultivate in both our personal and professional lives. Sometimes, that can equate to what may appear as a succession of back to back losses of those who we know and those who we love. Daily, and often due to media reporting, we are reminded of the fragility of life and of our own mortality. Whether loss hits us personally, directly, and intimately or it finds and penetrates us as part of the collective due to globally shared experiences such as poverty, famine, hate crimes, terrorist attacks, school-shootings, fallen soldiers in combat, political warfare or due to increased carnage related to climate change…loss is experienced, sadly, with almost as much frequency as anything else we deem to be a ‘normal’ part of our everyday lives.
I have experienced much loss in my life, and to the point of seemingly becoming somewhat immune and desensitized to it. Yes, my heart and soul have felt the impact of loss, however, the grieving process for me personally is experienced with my intuitive and robotic response to immerse myself in my work even more so than I already do. This has particularly been true for me when loss and the circumstances related to certain incidences of loss, have been indicative of never receiving so-called, ‘closure,’ or when the factors for ones death is completely in-comprehensible and needless (death by violence). I am fully aware of how little control we each actually have over our lives. It is beyond challenging when there is seemingly no rhyme or reason for why things unfold as they do in this world. However, we do have the choice and capabilities to exercise self-control and self-discipline as it applies to our own responses, approaches, and attitudes. We can choose to be part of the solution or conversely, we can choose to remain problem-saturated. We can assume personal responsibility and individual accountability for choosing to be a contributor, a healer, a problem-solver, or a positive leader, example, and role-model. Alternatively, we also have the choice to point fingers, deflect responsibility where it is perhaps ours to own, succumb to pessimism, negativity, and resign ourselves to the false belief that it is always someone else’s fault by viewing the world as more evil and corrupt than pure and miracle-based.
The tragic news may continue to ensue. The senseless loss of human life may remain a constant staple to humanity. As a realist, and as someone who is committed to inward and outward healing – someone who is equally committed to internal and external growth, and who is also staunchly committed to energetically emanating positive energies for the greater good for all – I will never give myself permission to implode my eternally optimistic spirit just because some days are harder than others to stomach loss and spiritual heartache. As a person who is consciously a-tune to universal energies, and universal laws – this subject matter along with most others for that matter, far surpasses and supersedes my own individual accounts and experiences. A loved one who passes on due to old age or reasons related to a diagnosis, (and as sad and as difficult as that is) is personally for me – more manageable, more understandable, more heal-able and more reconcilable than by contrast, where in fact – the focus of my thoughts,and energies more often than not…tend to gravitate and travel to. My heart-strings are more pulled by people I will never know, to countries I will likely never visit, who are on the receiving end of civil-right and humanistic abuses due to archaic and barbaric ideologies, which do not purport the belief or idea that each and every human life regardless of gender, age, culture, race, religion, socio-economic status…matters. It is the social injustices, inequities, and ills of our global community, which perpetuates and exacerbates grief and loss at its deepest level; personally speaking. It is this scope, depth, and breadth of loss out of all possible forms of loss, which most heavily weighs upon my heart and soul. To continuously rise from the ashes, I will always fundamentally believe that love is stronger than hate. That humanity is better than not. That kindness, love and compassion will prevail. That one day…we will globally and universally heal as a collective – as a ‘WE’ – as an ‘US.’ I believe this to be more than possible, and I own this as my declared truth.
To everyone who is graciously reading this blog post, and who is also currently grappling with individual loss – please know I am sending you my healing energies. Please be gentle and kind with yourself as you grieve, mourn, and transition into an adapted space of ‘normalcy.’ Love yourself enough to ask, elicit, embrace, and accept the personal and professional support, and intervention you may require for yourself. Please give yourself permission to feel whatever it is you feel whenever you feel it. Please remember that the roller-coaster of emotions you will inevitably experience is to be expected. It is my hope that your memories of your lost ones are filled with love, laughter, and much fondness as you recollect and heal. May the anniversary of their passing, and every other significant date on the calendar pertaining to them and your relationship to them be one of celebration. Love and light to you!
Originally published at livingfearlesslywithlisa.com