Trusting Our Unseen Dance Partner

Life Lessons from Argentine Tango

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“Trusting Our Unseen Dance Partner”

It’s been said that art often imitates life and vice versa. When it comes to art, one of my favorite art forms is dance. Life is a lot like dance; in fact, all of life is a dance, and it invites us all to take part. There is a quote by Julia Cameron that I love and it goes as follows:

“ Life is a spiritual dance and our unseen partner

has steps to teach us if we will ourselves to be led.

The next time you are restless, remind yourself,

it is the universe asking,

Shall We Dance? ”

I recently graduated from graduate school with my Masters Degree in Counseling Psychology. This was a major milestone for me and one of my greatest accomplishments. The journey was a long and hard one, so the victory was made even sweeter. Now, of course, the worry has set in. I find myself thinking about my student loan debt, my impending job search, my career path, etc. One thought leads to another, the what if’s begin to surface, and I notice my mind in a familiar negative thought pattern. I become aware of my anxiety and my sense of fear. In moments like these, I have lost my sense of faith and trust that everything will work out as it should. Dance has been one of my greatest teachers these past few years; it has taught me many life skills that I am able to apply in moments of uncertainty or distress.

As someone who loves being in control, it has taught me to follow my partner instead of trying to lead. In order to follow, we must trust, connect with our partner, and allow them to lead us by becoming attuned to their guidance. We must be fully present in the moment, neither dwelling on the past nor anticipating the future. Argentine tango has helped me to hone these skills on the dance floor and transfer these skills to my daily life. Just like the quote by Julia Cameron says, all of life is a dance and our partner (the universe, God, etc) is always leading us. In order to be led, however, we must surrender and use our sense of intuition to hear our guidance.

The universe is always speaking to us in whispers, sending us messages in the form of thoughts, ideas, coincidences, or other ‘chance’ encounters. We can make sure we don’t miss these messages by allowing ourselves to become still enough to hear them, still enough to dance with our unseen partner.

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