We’re all hiding something, aren’t we?
When we step into the office, we hide the rain clouds hovering above our heads by bantering about the “lovely weekend” we had with fake plastered smiles and forced chipper voices.
We shell out our hard-earned cash for some gloop-in-a-bottle that “magically” hides our blemishes, scars, and pimples.
We rummage through stores – on foot and online – for clothes that hide our imperfections from the world.
We suppress our painful past by keeping our lips locked while our secrets insidiously eat us alive.
Harlow’s unique, patchy visage can be seen in prestigious magazines such as Harper’s Baazar, and you can spot her catwalking for distinguished brands such as Dior and Coach, according to Forbes.
And what about Ashley Graham? The body-positive model disrupted the stick-thin model aesthetic with her luscious, plush curves, but like Harlow, she didn’t always have thick skin. She used to tell herself, “You are so ugly, you are so fat, this is disgusting,” according to an interview Graham had with Yahoo Style. But Graham had a breakthrough and began changing how she perceived her body. “I am beautiful, and I do have a great body,” she began telling herself in a mirror.
Both Harlow and Graham had to go through some serious
introspective personal development to become today’s confident models who are rising into prominence, and their new-found courage has helped them transform their so-called “defects” into dollars.
What is your metaphorical “chubbiness” that you’re trying to shy away from the world? And how can you turn that insecurity into something that you can embrace?
How can you turn your flaws into a career journey that will not only
deepen your pockets, but also make an positive impact on those who
share your same struggles?
Well, I’ll tell you what I’ve been hiding – my keloids. Keloids are unsightly clusters of overgrown collagen that can disfigure one’s appearance. I’ve got three big ones: my back shoulder, bikini line, and chest. I’ve also got small ones on my jawline. They grew spontaneously onto my skin during my teenage years.
I’ve tried all my life to hide them. I haven’t worn a V-neck t-shirt in a
decade, and I wouldn’t dare wear a swimsuit. I’ve spent thousands of
dollars trying to rid of them through surgery, laser procedures, and
nitrogen freezing, but all of my keloids grew back with a vengeance.
Drowning in depression, I began blogging about my keloids, and surprisingly, I received a flood of “I know how you feel” responses from all over the world. But here’s what really had my jaw dropping to the floor – a UK-based TLC producer found my blog, and told me she’d like to consider me for a TV series documenting people with hidden conditions, and how they reveal their “secret afflictions” to
love interests in the dating world.
I was floored.
I’ve spent so many years trying to hide my skin imperfections, and the minute I started opening up about them, opportunities started flying my way.
After some apprehension, I eventually agreed to do the show. The TLC producer said that while their monetary resources have depleted for now, they plan to keep me in mind for future seasons.
So what I want you to do, dear reader, is to start opening up about your own insecurities. “Live your truth,” as many say. Launch a YouTube channel discussing the one thing you’ve always tried to
hide. Start a blog and pour your heart out about an insecurity that
plagues your life. Go on Instagram, like Harlow, and proudly show off
your flaws (that is, by the way, how she got discovered by Tyra
With this sudden new wave of followers, the possibilities are
endless. Whether you’re embracing a unique part of your body or a
painful past, you can make an impressive imprint on the world –
touching people’s hearts along the way – while turning your defects