Life gets tough. Life gets too much to handle sometimes, and those times make you stronger. However, right now, it seems like you have lost yourself.

It’s difficult when you catch yourself not being you. When you do something or act a certain way and just wonder, “what did I do to deserve this? Why is this happening? When will it get better?” The way you’re feeling is not so much that you’re unhappy, you just feel weird.

Your day will come. I promise you. This is just a phase.

The day you realize how much you have grown from this point in time will be your reward. It is so hard to see now, and I feel your pain.

Your light will return to you. Your pure bliss moments, they are seeking you. Your laughter where your tummy aches is in your reach.

Our moods change far too often for us as humans to understand why, but the encounters you make every day have this effect on us.

You must remember the pure happiness you experienced before your first heartbreak, before the first friend became someone you thought they weren’t, before you lost your innocence. That was a time of true joy as you had not a care in the world for the things that would harm you. Better yet, you didn’t have the option to experience them because you were just a child.

The world can be an ugly place, and your attitude towards life can change every day. One thing is for certain: you did not lose who you are internally. We all put on a face for the world. For the people who we try to impress. For the life we want to live. For the things we want to achieve.

Your definitive personality is still in the works. Believe it or not, it always will be. Times like this change us for the better even though we can’t see it.

Your happiness will return. You will be a better, stronger version of you. In fact, you will be the best version of you yet.

Once this phase is over, you will be okay. This I promise you.

Originally published at brightmindposts.com

Author(s)

  • Nicole F. Smith, M.Ed., CDBC

    CEO/Founder

    JMS Creative Leadership Solutions

    For the past 20+ years, with her background in Talent Development, focusing on Leadership Development, Nicole has consulted, trained and coached many organizational leaders at every level in various industries. Her background led her to becoming a #1 best-selling author of a quick, easy read book called 20 Golden Leadership Nuggets. Nicole takes lessons learned in her 20 years of servant, authentic leadership and crafts them in practical tips that can be applied today helping you on your leadership journey! With her love of speaking, she has designed, hosted, and facilitated many educational events, conferences, workshops, and seminars for over 20,000 attendees. She has engaged audiences on a variety of topics such as multiple generations, managing your schedule, conflict management, skillful collaboration, emotional intelligence, diversity, inclusion and equity, unconscious bias, employee engagement, how to use technical tools/software, and the list continues. Nicole is passionate about speaking and teaching, and strives to help people enjoy the journey of becoming the best version of themselves. She is a certified DISC behavior consultant, allowing her to administer, interpret, train, and coach on the DISC behavior profile assessments. She is currently pursuing her Emotional Intelligence Life Coach certification and Professional Life certification. Nicole is a graduate of the University of North Carolina at Charlotte with two Bachelor of Art degrees: one in Psychology and the other in Criminal Justice. She received a Master of Education from the University of Phoenix focusing on adult training and development. Nicole resides in Charlotte, NC with her husband, Marcus, of 22 years and two sons, Jordan (20) and Justin (15). She is an excited marching band mom, and an active member of the Junior League of Charlotte, NC winning service awards and serving in positions such as the Education & Training Council Manager, Vice-Chair of the Training and Development committee and Co-Chair of Diversity & Inclusion Committee.