Let’s be real, socializing can be awkward. Meeting new people, working your way around an event, dating, inter-office mingling — you name the situation it can be weird and uncomfortable.
We are expected to be able to connect with anyone despite his or her background, perspective or willingness to engage. This can be difficult as we are never really taught how to socialize; besides the basic niceties of being polite and don’t talk with your mouth full. The presupposed outcome of connection and poor education on how to form it has us feeling inept when the conversation falls flat, the relationship doesn’t take off or we don’t deliver or create what we know is possible.
Enter in the social butterflies. They are the ones who know how to work a room, make a connection and leave every person they interact with in a lighter state then they found them in. Social butterflies are easy to be around, to speak to and create with. They possess and showcase an enjoyment with interacting, are inclusive, make you feel valued and, most importantly, they create a sense of ease with the communication exchange.
Some people have a natural gift for this graceful interaction style and ease with connection. Some do not. Most think that you are either born with ‘the gift of the gab’ or you aren’t but I have found, through my many years of teaching communication, that these skills can be acquired. It just takes practice and a willingness to stretch out of your comfort zone.
Below are some tips for developing your own wings as a social butterfly:
Keep in mind there is an advantage to be had, both personally and professionally, by developing and harnessing your skills as a social butterfly. Have fun with these tips, stretch yourself and see what you can create when you spread your wings and fly.
Lauren Polly, Life Coach and author of The Other Side of Bipolar, shares her own journey to help others find the life they desire without limitations. Lauren is a catalyst for people who are living their life on autopilot; she helps others shift from surviving to thriving through dynamic healing, self-empowerment, and life-changing tools in her cutting-edge classes and 1:1 coaching. She hosts a weekly radio show called, Beyond Speech, Limitless Communication, and is a Certified Access Consciousness® Facilitator, Certified Talk to the Entities® Facilitator, ASHA Certified Medical Speech-Language Pathologist, and is a registered Yoga Instructor. Lauren has shown thousands of people around the world how to engage boldly with themselves, their body, and the world to create the life they desire.
Originally published at chicgalleria.com on September 13, 2016.
Originally published at medium.com