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Thriving After Narcissistic Abuse

How Long Has It Been Since You Went No Contact? How Are You Doing? Last night, I came across the first answer I wrote on Quora about Narcissists.  At the time, I was just beginning to take baby steps toward rebuilding my life.  After months of self-imposed isolation, I was finally ready to become reacquainted […]

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How Long Has It Been Since You Went No Contact? How Are You Doing?


Last night, I came across the first answer I wrote on Quora about Narcissists. 

At the time, I was just beginning to take baby steps toward rebuilding my life.  After months of self-imposed isolation, I was finally ready to become reacquainted with the outside world.

Sort of.  I still had to be careful about my safety.

I knew my narcissist ex was looking for me. If he found me, I had no doubt that he would try to kill me again.

So I ventured into the world via social media.

It seems strange to look back and realize how far I’ve come. There are so many transitions when you start changing your entire life. 

It’s easy to forget to stop and smell the roses along the way.  
To overlook the little victories that once loomed like insurmountable obstacles.

But sometimes in life, you need to pat yourself on the back.
To be proud of who you are and what you’ve done.  
Occasionally, it becomes necessary to just poke fun at yourself. 
And to laugh at the dumbass mistakes you’ve made.

I think it’s better to look back with fondness at who you once were. 
Not contempt for the person who fell short of what you wanted to be.

When I wrote this answer, I did not yet know what direction my life was going to take.  I only knew that I planned to go forward. 

Thankfully, I’ve been able to do that. But definitely not without bumps in the road. Lots of times I fell flat on my ass without knowing how to get back up. 

I learned, though. You just take one step at a time. Before long, you’re right where you need to be. Even if you don’t know how you managed to get there.

“You can’t go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending.”

C. S. Lewis
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