How did I know my boyfriend cheated on me? I asked him. When you are so intimate with someone for so long, it is easy to know when something isn’t right. You can never imagine the person you love betraying you so deeply, and in my case, twice. However, as I heard him choke on his lies and then eventually the truth, I didn’t feel the crack in my heart like I thought I was supposed to. Instead, it almost felt like a part of my heart had been repaired. The stress and anxiety had vanished. Of course the next day and still now I feel pain, but finding out I was cheated on was a wakeup call, or what I like to say, a blessing.
It was a wakeup call for how much the relationship was holding me back from so many amazing opportunities. An Uber driver once told me that, “the right relationship will never feel like it is getting in the way.” That’s when it all clicked that the relationship I imagined was good, wasn’t the one I was in. I had an image of what I thought was a loving relationship but was actually a lot of heartache and pain. Being cheated on felt numb and almost expected which is why I knew it was a relationship holding me back from other amazing people, career opportunities, and the friendships I had with others.
If you’ve been cheated on, turn the negative into positive by seeing the opportunity for time for yourself. It sounds simple, however, it is the truth. The Universe works the way it is supposed to. If you let things happen you would be surprised what opportunities will come knocking your way. Being cheated on allows you to break the ties, be strong, and go after everything you want without the input of someone else. The right person comes along when you aren’t looking, and they’ll be the person that never gets in the way. It takes time, but you are better off in the long run by not being with someone who can’t see the trophy they have. Chin up.