The Unhappy Comfortable Life

Why we aren't choosing our best life...

Comfort zones are the killers to living out our best life. We stay trapped in fear and stuck in unhappiness because it’s better than heading to the unknown which is scary as hell. The potential of our happiness comes from the changes and growth we choose to allow into our lives. Life isn’t stuck in one unhappy place, it’s your mind that is. We fear change, failures, uncertainty or letting go of what we now have. Comfort is allowing us to be unhappy and bound to a mediocre life experience.

In the first chapter of my book, Stepping Out of Your Comfort Zone I discuss why we are all in a comfort zone in some way and how we can begin to break free to prevail into a happier person. Our learned behaviors and the unconscious mind has taught us to love stability, certainty, and to steer clear of risks. Whether it be societal norms, family members’ ideas of who you should be, or the community in which you were raised in; there are many things that are influencing us to live a certain way. Not only are we influenced to exist in a certain way, but to settle into a certain type of life.

The majority of Americans surrounding us are now settled into an unhappy comfortable way of life. We conform to fit ideals of what others want us to be. We become the person we are expected to become. We attend the college, buy the house, build the family, get the job, but the one thing we forget to do is listen to what the conversation inside our mind keeps saying to us.

We delete our dreams, the passions we should chase, the ideal person we could be; because we become comfortable being who we think we are supposed to be. Our lives are often chosen by what others say and think is the best life we can life. But, the best life we can live can only be determined by us . We have the power to choose an amazing life, each day until we run out of time on earth. But for some reason, we can’t seem to choose what’s best or the most fulfilling, but rather we choose what is most comfortable.

I challenge you to begin choosing what’s uncomfortable. Begin making small choices that lead you to makes changes in some small way. Start letting go of comfortable things and start choosing the unknown. Happiness often comes from making uncomfortable choices. Begin to choose more happiness and let go of being stuck in the unhappy comfort zone you’re in.

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