The Time(s) I Got Misgendered

Well, it’s happened again. I was misgendered today. This time I was in a care home. A lady points at me and shouts very loudly across the room ‘who is that boy?’ In that moment, a lifetime of being called a boy; all the people and situations came flooding back to me. I’m not sure […]

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Well, it’s happened again.

I was misgendered today.

This time I was in a care home.

A lady points at me and shouts very loudly across the room ‘who is that boy?’

In that moment, a lifetime of being called a boy; all the people and situations came flooding back to me.

I’m not sure if it’s my choice of clothes, my hair cut, how I talk, my mannerisms or how I interact with people but it keeps happening. In hotels. Airports. When I am shopping. When I am out for dinner with my partner.

I know this might sound silly to some of you but it had and has a lasting impact on me.

It is another reminder that I am different. That I don’t fit in to someone else’s expectations. Expectations that are dictated to us from society, the media and education to name a few.

I’d love to hear your experiences.

Have you been misgendered or has someone pointed out you are different in some way? Maybe it’s your gender, your sexuality, the colour of your skin, your religion or something physical or mental. Even things like your eating preferences. I get so many comments these days about began vegan.

Where does it happen? At work? At home? Socially? At the shops?

How does it make you feel?

When someone does misgender you and then realises, how do you want them to deal with that?

What is the best way to deal with misgendering – both from the person doing it and from the person receiving it?

Please leave me a comment below – let me know all about your experiences!

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