When you have the opportunity to ask some of the most interesting people in the world about their lives, sometimes the most fascinating answers come from the simplest questions. The Thrive Questionnaire is an ongoing series that gives an intimate look inside the lives of some of the world’s most successful people.
Thrive Global: What’s the first thing you do when you get out of bed?
Danette May: First thing, I do before I get out of bed is I ask myself one question. And that question is: “How do I want to be defined?” This leads me to think of the way I want to act, the projects I want to take on. Then I say 3 things I am grateful for in my mind. I head downstairs, and get myself fresh warm lemon water.
TG: What gives you energy?
DM: Cacao Bliss – This is a superfood Raw cacao mix. I drink this in the morning after my lemon water and then I also drink in the afternoon when I want a pick me up and am craving something sweet. I also love to move my body.
TG: What’s your secret life hack?
DM: It’s not so secret, but I never skip a day where I declare my I AM statements. I believe your words are the most powerful tool you have to transform your life and move it in the direction of your dreams. I believe this has opened every door for me.
TG: Name a book that changed your life.
DM: The Big Leap -Gay Hendricks
TG: Tell us about your relationship with your phone. Does it sleep with you?
DM: I always put my phone on airplane mode at night. I do not look at my phone until around 10:00 in the morning, after my morning routine.
TG: How do you deal with email?
DM: Email? What email? Just kidding. I review email every day. I get 100’s of inboxes a day. I organize the messages in to “respond to”, “archive” or “trash”, then I go back after my bigger projects are done and get at least 5 of the top “respond to” emails” answered.
TG: You unexpectedly find 15 minutes in your day, what do you do with it?
DM: I head out in to the mountains. I live on top of a mountain and nature is my favorite stress relief. My favorite place to be.
TG: When was the last time you felt burned out and why?
DM: March 2018. I had hired someone who was on my executive team who was not performing, but pretending to. Not honest and very draining. I didn’t let her go fast enough, which caused a lot of unnecessary stress, energy and frustration. Once I released her from the team, the whole team came to life and stress left. Beautiful what happens when you free someone who is draining and not honest from your life.
TG: When was the last time you felt you failed and how did you overcome it?
DM: I tend to not look at anything in my business as a failure, but more as an opportunity to improve upon. I have come to realize that with relationships I am not giving myself the same kind of grace. I have made mistakes in relationships. Trusted and loved people who didn’t feel the same. I have also hurt people I love and cannot take back the words or actions. I tend to look at those things as failures. What I am working on around it to overcome it, is to give myself grace and to look inward at what needs healing to avoid the same mistakes.
TG: Share a quote that you love and that gives you strength or peace.
DM: The master in the art of living makes little distinction between his work and his play, his labor and his leisure, his mind and his body, his education and his recreation, his love and his religion. He hardly knows which is which. He simply pursues his vision of excellence at whatever he does, leaving others to decide whether he is working or playing. To him he is always doing both.- zen Buddha Master