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The Surprising No. 1 Reason Why Families Argue, According to New Research

...and how often.

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Photo Credit: chameleonseye/Getty Images

By Kelli Catana

If it seems that majority of your day is spent arguing with your kids to clean their room, pick up after themselves, eat their dinner or to simply enjoy a day without Fortnite, you’re not alone. 

A new study shows that parents argue with their kids on average 6 times a day, totaling 48 minutes daily. Add that up and that’s on average 42 arguments a week, and 182 a month! Even more surprising is that works out to an average of 2,184 arguments with your kids a year. Now that explains why parents are so exasperated all the time!

The survey, commissioned by Capri-Sun, asked 2000 parents of children aged two to 12 about what they argue with their kids about. Not surprisingly, what the kids are eating and drinking topped the list. Not wanting to finish their meals, sneaking snacks before dinner, not wanting to go to sleep at bedtime or not wanting to do chores were common causes of arguments between parents and kids.

Not surprisingly, use of gadgets like phones and tablets also made the top 10 list of items parents and kids fight about, as does teeth brushing.

This probably sounds totally familiar to you, as it seems that not only is arguing with your kids the norm but the reasons for the arguments as well. However, according to the survey, 6 in 10 adults were likely to give in to their kids, to “keep the peace,” MSN reports.

“Many parents believe that reaching a compromise with their children is the best way to keep everyone happy,” said a spokesman for Capri-Sun. “With the majority of household rows being about food and drink, mums and dads have the tricky task of settling a fight while still keeping the upper hand.”

Not surprisingly, use of gadgets like phones and tablets also made the top 10 list of items parents and kids fight about, as does teeth brushing. The study also found that 90% of parents will negotiate with their kids in order to get them to do what they’re asked, with rewards including more time with their gadgets, using a reward chart or even financial bonuses and allowances.

At least now parents know they’re not alone and that everyone is having similar arguments at home.

Originally published on Moms.com.

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