“THE ROAD TO SUCCESS AND THE ROAD TO FAILURE ARE ALMOST EXACTLY THE SAME” — Colin R. Davis
Numerous people assume that there are only two possibilities success or failure. They don’t realize “success and failure” are two side of the same coin.
The only difference is the road to success is much longer and it is built on failures.
Nowdays we live in a society that emphasizes success and winning. But these are the end products of a process of learning, something which we inevitably do if we fail.
Infact I believe that failing is our own inbuilt human learning curve. If we greet failure as part of an informative feedback loop then it is something to welcome. After all it’s not what happens to you, it’s how you deal with it.
Many of us resist trying things because we think we wont be good at them. However, we’re missing out on life this way. All of our life is a learning experience and a process not an end result. The experiences and impressions we gain when attempting something new are our life. We have nothing else but our experiences in the here and now. So plunge right in and start living and if you fail welcome the information you get from that.
For this reason risk taking is at the very heart of any quest for success. You must embrace the unknown and see what happens.
Each risk gone wrong is really a risk gone well because it leads you in a new direction to take a new risk.
Failure helps cultivate the virtue of resiliency recognizing your limitations and your strengths and encouraging you to change your strategy.
But what is Success ?
Defining what success means to you is an important part of defining yourself as an individual. This is especially important because other people, or society in general, will be more than happy to impose their ideas of success on you.
Some of these ideas are based on your job or career and other standards are imposed by family and friends.
Not all definitions of success that come from other people are bad, and some may seem quite reasonable and natural. The important thing is that you need to endorse them yourself, to agree that they reflect the standards you want to live up to, and that you’re not simply accepting the standards you’re “given.”
By the way everyone wants “SUCCESS” but few people live it. I think one of the primary reasons for this is that they fail to understand what success actually is.
It’s very hard to reach a goal that is not well defined.
If you don’t know where you’re trying to go, how will you even know it if you get there?
As psychiatrist Leon Tec said: “A sailor without a destination cannot hope for a favorable wind.”
So the first step to becoming ‘successful’ is defining our personal success.
We must set our coordinates accurately so that we can someday reach our intended destination.
Originally published at medium.com