“I’m going to fire X”. My first gut reaction still is “Here we go, buckle up Jamie.” And then I remember I have to think of myself as the doctor. The patient is telling me, they have a problem and they want to get rid of it. In this case, we aren’t talking about a rash though my friends, we’re talking about a human being.
Sometimes I think about the work that God chose for me and I wonder to myself, wow. He trusted me enough to put me on a path where I can impact people’s working lives AND personal lives at the very same time. When people tell me HR is hiring and firing, I feel my blood pressure raise slightly, smile and say, “Well, it’s a little bit more than that”.
I like to think of it as Psychology, Law and Marketing’s poorer, younger cousin. When it’s done right – it’s magical. When it’s not, it’s downright destructive and a little fire can turn into a whole city going down in flames. It’s too easy to think you can find someone to replace them. Ask me about hiring managers who have had jobs open for over a year. I dare you!
Here are some general considerations for those aspiring leaders around “involuntary termination” (such an ugly word – I am sorry!). Please note this does not include gross misconduct and situations always vary.
Have you dedicated your time and attention with no distractions whatsoever to this person to potentially change this person’s entire life course? Did you actively listen? How frequently and did you act on their concerns or instill hope?
Did you use all available options to you? The internet is your friend – how often have you offered a video conference if you can’t be there face to face?
Projecting Inward (Yes, it’s a thing)
Could you look the family of the person in the eyes with a smile on your face and explain why you chose to terminate if you were asked? Did the person know it was coming and was it an easier conversation because it was progressive and for mutual benefit? Yes, I am dead serious. Are you happy with who you are when you reflect on your decision?
Some of the basics
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Jamie is the Founder and Chief Dream Officer at Reaptimistic.
Reaptimistic offers realistically optimistic coaching on leadership and HR services based in Los Angeles, with a twist, our leadership theories are based on the humble dog, love and the code of care, to T – H – I – N – K. Is True, Is it Helpful, it is Inspiring, Is it Necessary and is it Kind?