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The Power of Inner Dialogue®

Stop being your worst enemy by befriending the voices in your head...

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I am also a We … If you are aware of the Sense 8 phenomenon, you must have heard of this mythical line “ I am also a We “ and it is glorious. If you haven’t, let me explain. The show portrays eight strangers from different parts of the world who suddenly become “sensates”; human beings who are mentally and emotionally linked. They are in each other’s head and know at any moment what each of them feels. The 8 of them are called a cluster so they are actually a We.

They are connected by emotions and pain connects them the most strongly and well each of their individual ‘well-being’ affects the cluster as a whole. This show presents the theory of homo Sapiens (us) versus homo Sensorium (the Sensates). Fascinating right?

What if I told you that some of it, is true? What if I told you that it is not as far-fetched as it seems? If I told you that we are all connected and that you are also part of a cluster, would you believe it? If I told that that cluster was inside of you and that you already know some members of your cluster…Familiar strangers as I call them would you be ready to meet your cluster?

If you are, keep reading…

We all have an inner critic: The voice that criticizes us, the voice that replays conversations in our head. Are you familiar with the concept of ego? We all know of this little voice always talking in our head, telling us we are not enough, or to belittle ourselves, etc… Some call it the Monkey Mind. Arianna Huffington coined it as the obnoxious roommate living in our head. No voices are as mean as the voices in our own head. Well, they are many more voices than the voice of ego and these inner voices are our cluster. They are us and together form the layers of our personality. Society teaches us to quiet our inner critic, to shut down the bi…  who lives in your head and banish it once and for all.

Here’s the thing: It doesn’t work— As many years of healing and coaching practice have proven it to me. When you try to expel or banish our inner critic, it doesn’t leave. It just gets louder and gets back at us like a kid having a tantrum at the worst possible time, louder than ever.

The solution? Listen to your inner mean girl or dude (aka ego). Learn to know it and open a dialogue. Meet this familiar stranger living in your head. By the way, the ego is not alone but certainly the loudest.  I have created a revolutionary mindfulness system I have created called Inner Dialogue® and one of its main tools, the Car Lite Therapy™ allows us to discover our inner CLUSTER aka all the voices in our head.

It will enable you to identify, visualize, truly see, and become aware of all the different voices (aspects of your subconscious personality) that you are and are ever-present. Ego/Shadow Self, Self, Higher Self, and your inner child. You will meet your Ego and Higher Self and you will be able to see them in their true forms. 

Let me share a bit about each of the 4 familiar strangers of your inner cluster.

EGO

Ego is The part of you that defines itself as a personality, separates itself from the outside world, and considers itself (read: you) a separate entity from the rest of nature. Perhaps necessary for survival in some evolutionary bygone, in modern times it leads only to (albeit often disguised) misanthropic beliefs, delusion, and fear. Ego is the ever talking voice telling us that it is too risky, that we are better or less than, that we do not deserve or that we are not good enough…The ego will always grab back at what is known because the reference of the ego is lying in the past. The ego is trapped in duality, in the past and future, whereas the present moment, literally is not existing to the ego. The ego is constantly drifting between A and B, past and future, the pain of the past and the fear of the future. Fear of encountering that pain from the past and hence projected into the future. This is very important to understand. The ego is not interested in the truth. Ego is interested in what he or she believes to be the truth. The ego has some patterns such as procrastination, forgetfulness, distraction, drama or excessive self-doubt, or excessive assurance…They are just all ways to protect itself from venturing outside past and future and the old fear-based operating system of the ego. Through my years of research and healing practice, I have isolated more than 20 main categories of ego or inner critic archetypes. Find below a non-exhaustive list of different archetypes of egos: The Conformist, The Victim, The Procrastinator, The People pleaser, The Savior, The Escapologist, The Worry Wart, The Narcissist, The Perfectionist, The Monk…

Some of these archetypes are passive archetypes, some are active and some are more aggressive types of characters. The type of ego most people dread, is the domineering/manipulative ego, judging and putting people down in your thoughts, and the wounded ego which makes you feel small about any of your achievements.

HIGHER SELF

You will also meet your HIGHER SELF. We are souls incarnated in a physical vessel and as such Higher-self is our connection to our true soul essence, to our truth and to the divine. Higher-self is here is to help you remember who you are and that you have infinite resources to call upon. That you have abilities that can help you and that you are always being guided. The higher self’s mission is to guide, to show the way, the best way, to co-create the life you are supposed to live and help you fulfill your life purpose. Awakening to me is mostly learning to listen to this other internal voice/guide who is often not as loud as Ego. It is the voice of truth and the voice always preaching for us to align with our highest good.

SELF

There is also SELF. Self is supposed to be a balanced aspect of your personality who navigates wisely between higher guidance and fear dictated by ego. Self usually looks like you, a slightly better version of you, often slimmer, younger, more fit but well it is always a surprise…

INNER CHILD

Lastly, you will meet your INNER CHILD. In each of us, there is a young, often wounded child, crying for attention but we ignore our inner child and yell at that little voice inside of us because we don’t want to feel guilty for what we did or think we did and we don’t want to feel shame for who we are. The inner child has more of an influence on our lives than we were previously aware of. This part, although living in our subconscious mind, is a living conscious part. It is the child we once were and it holds all our hurts, disappointments, hurts, traumas, anger, negative feelings, and sadness. Inner Child can help us to overcome these feelings because they know better than anyone what it is that we need to heal. They are all-knowing, wise, perfect and when you tap into their immense light, wisdom, and power, the possibilities of healing, growth, and expansion become infinite for the adult we are, if we are ready to. 

You will find below stories that describe what people experience during their inner journey with Car Lite Therapy™. Please note that each experience is different and unique.

”I just felt that the struggle was over and that happiness was possible for me”

“My car was a Porsche electric-blue night, beautiful leather inside, nice music and we were driving home to the stars. I could not see a road, just stars around the car … It was beautiful. At first, I was kind of scared to look at ego because my ego appeared as a wounded mummy … And told me that all the bandages came from all the hurdles and the battles. I really felt that it also meant that she was dead … A mummy is not alive and is supposed to rest. Later during the meditation, I realized that I also killed her somehow or she died because I did not like her … I rejected all the shadow part she represented. It was very beautiful and emotional. I asked her what is your mission. She said to survive. I am here to help you survive..”



“It felt like a very heavyweight had lifted off me..”

”My car is a Light green Kaefer – convertible – pulled by seahorses with hoofs. I love my car. It felt comfortable and familiar. As we seemed to be traveling underwater, it felt as if we were floating and riding a comfortable wave at the same time.  My Inner Child is a little girl but with very long straight hair – it had strains of white, silver, yellow, golden, onyx, and brown. Her skin was light brown and her eyes were a deep black. She has been all alone for so long. Locked up in there with all these things. She has tried to collect the objects to keep them close so that she would not feel as lonely. Some of these objects she knows she is not allowed to have. Someone took them from their rightful owners and tossed them into this place where she now resides and she does not know what she is supposed to do with them. So she tried to collect them but has nothing to hold them/carry them/put them in. Once she found something that could have contained the rest, but it overloaded and everything spread again. She is so lonely. There is nothing but empty space, herself, and floating objects (…).  My biggest take away is that everything is just there, I just have to be willing to look.” 


“I have to learn how to say no and how to set healthy boundaries”

“My car was a red Italian car. The car was very nice and I felt relaxed in it. The weather was Mediterranean, springtime, sunny, but not hot. My Self looked exactly like me but somehow younger, more handsome, and very relaxed. I liked the Self because he was relaxed and at peace, which is not at all my current state. My ego looked like my child, my son but was morphing into an adult and then turning back to a child. I was quite scared and surprised by that vision. I really did not like my ego and was not comfortable with him. Ego looked scary, mean, and controlling… (…) It was very insightful as I came to the realization that my son ”controls my life” as I never ever say NO to him…It seems just impossible for me. I understand now and many people in my entourage had already warned me about my behavior, that it would be good to behave more like a dad and that it was the role of a parent to sometimes say no and set healthy boundaries. .”

Psychologist, Carl Gustav Jung, used the concept of archetype in his theory of the human psyche.

“I must also have a dark side if I am to be whole”

“When an inner situation is not made conscious, it happens outside, as fate.” 

He believed that universal, mythic characters—archetypes—reside within the collective unconscious of people all around the world. Archetypes are symbolic images, we unconsciously understand. My many years of healing practice have shown me that he is right and that archetypes evoke deep emotions, often buried within all of us and that’s exactly, what Inner Dialogue® is about. I will add that according to me, all of these archetypes are unruly by design. They are rebellious and are playing a constant game of power inside you. Most people, if not all, have several archetypes at play in their personality construct; however, one archetype tends to dominate the personality in general.

We are all or we have been…heroes, muses, creators, victims, warriors, abusers, innocents, orphans, caregivers, explorers, rebels, jesters, witches, healers, lovers, haters, tricksters, sages, leaders, magicians, priests, fathers, knights, mothers, monsters, crusaders, peacemakers, protectors, cowards, whores and harlots, celibates and widows, idealists, liars, alchemists, bullies, adventurers, criminals, saviors, daughters, sons,…or a mix of them. Each core personality can have a healthy or unhealthy way of expressing itself, into emotions and thoughts that rule our lives. Thus all these Inner Dialogue® stories talk to all of us and can heal all of us because each of these archetypes, struggling to emerge from within, belong to the collective unconscious of humanity. That is the cycle and the beauty of life. 

So maybe it is time, to embrace and acknowledge this dark side (I call this the path of the holy shadow) and to understand this inner situation and your inner cluster. You just have to trust that your subconscious mind is able to create powerful metaphors and stories to help you to heal, forgive, empower, and grow. In every moment, your energy is contributing to the vibration of the entire planet because we are all connected. We are all One. It’s not a matter of letting go but probably of letting be…and of loving acceptance. Loving Yourself is always a good place to start.

Photo Credits : Laura Williams
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