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The Power of Choice

A basic aspect of Emotional Intelligence

Life is great, isn’t it? I always try to view my own existence within a larger picture. We live in a huge Universe which keeps growing larger every time scientists increase the capability of their telescopes. The Universe doesn’t exactly grow, we are only beginning to see more of it. At the moment science believes there to be one billion trillion stars in the observable Universe alone and even if a fraction of these stars have planets, the odds are stacked in favour of life! There is no doubt in my mind that we are not alone and the evidence will be found some day. And if you happen to believe in a benevolent Creator then the idea that the Universe was created just for us seems a bit narrow minded and perhaps even slightly arrogant. If you didn’t get it yet, this space we live in is really BIG. I am convinced there are beings like us devoted to the same Creator on all those other planets. And in complete contrast with that picture ; here is little old me on this tiny blue planet who has to deal with the daily stress at work. Although the stress isn’t chaos anymore in my brain. I’ve learned to deal with it by making clear-cut choices and that makes life so much easier.

But I had to make a few adjustments to my brain programming through a series of gentle realizations. This is simple psychology and working with belief systems is easy. The mind can believe anything it is told and you can reprogram the brain yourself at any age to change your perception of reality. Science is starting to find that out, this phenomenon is called neuroplasticity. I personally believe key to defeating Alzheimer, Parkinson and what other medical conditions exist and are not mentioned here is to keep the brain active. I’ve noticed two things when looking at some of those pensioners who manage to keep looking ageless and energetic somehow. They all appear to have their wits about them and they are very conscious of what they ingest. Mens sana in corpore sano seems to apply to this group of people. I’ve got great respect for this ancient Roman piece of wisdom. These old folk apparently have made a conscious choice to keep investing in their wellbeing. And so I started a few years back to train my brain and my body on a daily basis. Cycling has become a form of meditation for me. And to satisfy the brain; there are a multitude of apps available on many different platforms.

The next step is to realize that making mistakes actually advances understanding. It was Steve Jobs who said this: “Sometimes when you innovate, you make mistakes. It is best to admit them quickly, and get on with improving your other innovations.” I have given this much thought and concluded he actually found the words to describe what I have been doing all my life but not consciously. I was always a rebel and I took some risks when I was young. And life showed me some of these choices were actually quite bad. We think we know everything at age 25! I can really laugh at myself now when I’m in retrospective mode. If I could go back I’d tell myself to relax more. But I have acknowledged these experiences created more awareness and also taught me emotional maturity. Those great people who once took risks and who are now players on the world stage just went ahead and dove in as well. They followed a dream and became rich doing what they loved on the side. Millionaires actually don’t do it for the money. You can probably name the people and the brands they have created. They are now global influencers.

Business leaders know this. You have no control. If you think you have then you’re living in an illusion. The inner control freak of course wants to do it perfectly, but that simply isn’t possible when you give this some realistic thought. Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) may help you with that. Sure, a rocket going up in space has to work flawlessly. There are people checking people checking people and so on to make sure that happens. And sometimes still the system fails! Relax. It is my experience about ninety five percent of a plan always works, and the remaining five is about making adjustments and fixing the oversights. Life always throws something back at us. It almost looks like that is supposed to happen, to help us focus or simply create more awareness of what we’re doing. I believe the Universe works that way, I really do. This drives evolution, and that isn’t a biological thing. Evolution is driven by expansion of consciousness. The more you are aware of your surroundings, the better your ability to make choices becomes. Empathy is a key factor if you want to make decisions that serve all involved. Your succes in life depends on your relationships. You can only manifest wealth through others.

One last realization is that there are no good or bad choices. And at the same time there are. This seems contradictory but I am trying to make a point and so here are a few nuances. You don’t know if a [good] choice turns out to be bad. You simply have choice and the result is variable! There are so many more possible results in between good or bad. Any experimental scientist can tell you that a result is undefined. Or any salesman. You can sell a car with two or four percent profit, but if you want your customer to come back, you’ll settle for two. He will appreciate you and mouth to mouth will do so much more for your business. I hope you see the logic in this. Money doesn’t buy you happiness. That’s a bit of New Age philosophy and I happen to agree with that one. We are feeling humans with a heart and feeling good is in part generated by doing good. Your feelgood factor increases instantly with every act of kindness! And an act of kindness starts with the choice to do so. Emotional intelligence isn’t something you can pick up from a book. This grows with every conscious decision that is made. It takes practice to overcome the fear to make one  and not hesitate. That’s very important. I always go by my gut feeling. Those insights work best.

Enjoy your day.

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