Do you ever set goals for yourself? Goals are something higher than your own self. Goals change you. Goals help you become the person you want to be.
Does your life pass you by? Do you pass life by? Is your life filled with emotions, achievements, discoveries and exciting experiences? Or is your life filled with the sinking monotony of every day life keep turning you in circles as if you’re spinning around in the same carousel over and over again?
Do you have a guiding principle, a goal, something to move you forward? Or have you imperceptibly left yourself to fall into the traps of daily routines and random events shaping your life?
Monotony, lack of challenges and emotions break the spirit of man and one ends up losing his or her zeal for life, feeling tired, drained and demotivated. Ultimately leading to complete subjugation of circumstances. Living this way, you end up losing energy, vitality and begin to age faster.
Of course, you’d ask, “How do I motivate myself? How do I make myself feel alive when everyone around me keeps moving around, as if they are chess pieces being moved by the system? How do I fill my life with colors and awaken myself? How do I find that driving force to move me forward?”
Many try to escape of daily monotony by indulging in various entertainments by living only for those little moments. Others hope that one day something will happen — winning the lottery, finding a new or better job, meeting the love of their life, so they keep waiting for something of the external world to change their life.
Any of the above is highly unlikely; yet, someone suddenly knocks on your door and makes you vibrant and happy. There is hardly anything from the external world that without your intervention will bring you what your soul wants and desires.
There is a powerful tool that makes us aspire, that makes us energized, that stimulates us, enabling us to enjoy life. It’s called targets and responsibility.
Of course, many people have defined what they want from life, they have dreams, they visualize constantly the desired and expect signs of destiny, as if things will “just” happen on their own. But they forget one key point:
Dreams are a wonderful thing to aspire to, but without action rarely dreams lead to real results. The dreamer sees him or herself in a dream, in a location surrounded by friends he or she would like to have, transferred to a mental world full of adventures, which he or she would like to live in, but has no idea how this will happen.
This individual wants to achieve his or her dream, but he’s too passive, there is no concrete plan or direction to follow. In this case, the dream is just an escape from reality, a beautiful mirage that is never reached.
The acting individual not only dreams, he sets concrete targets, draws a plan and makes every effort to come close to the desired. He does not look at the dream as a dream, like a beautiful imaginary island where to retire from time to time, and sees it as a real opportunity, a challenge.
He already has a direction to which to go, namely concrete plan that is an accelerator of his energy. The acting does not rely on chance or for a miracle to happen. He trusts in himself, his creativity and putting one foot in front of the other. Day after day. One step closer to his goal.
Remember that to help someone else, you have to help yourself first. And if you want to take your life in a certain direction, you are the one who must make the first move.
One of my favorite authors, Johanne Wolfgang von Goethe once said:
“Until one is committed, there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back, always ineffectiveness. Concerning all acts of initiative and creation, there is one elementary truth the ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans: that the moment one definitely commits oneself, then providence moves too. All sorts of things occur to help one that would never otherwise have occurred. A whole stream of events, meetings and material assistance, which no man could have dreamed would have come his way. Whatever you can do or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genius, power and magic in it. Begin it now.”
When you make a decision, when you recap the purpose and begin to act step by step, things begin to happen and to help you meet the right people, circumstances develop, so that they show you the way.
I am convinced that when you take your life into your own hands and take concrete steps, everything around responds and things begin to happen. Visualization and affirmations are great facilities, but what will drive real process is simply a step forward, every single day.
This is why it is so important if you want to make a change in your life, you begin to act. Today. Now.
Make a plan, set specific targets, write on a sheet of paper different ideas and options and take action. Remember that it is better to try and fail than to stand still and do nothing. The more specific your goal, the more accurate you will direct the energy where you need it.
Ask yourself where you want to be after one year, what you want to accomplish and exactly what steps do you intend to do. Set deadlines. This will prevent you from postponing the process indefinitely. Take a risk, because only that risk can win.
This step unlocks your potential and a whole series of events and changes in your life. You not only want, you have already decided to act, and you’re already moving forward. You’ve already taken the leap of faith and you’re on the road, there’s no turning back. In these circumstances, the world has no choice but to help you realize your thinking.
Of course, as it happens often the direction of your goals may change and you will need to make another plan based on the new idea or situation, but what is most important is that you’ve set the starting point and commitment to action. Opportunities cannot occur before you decide that it’s time to act and that you’re ready.
What prevents you to take responsibility and to become the director, the boss of your life? What stops you of being proactive and making life exciting?
Let’s break it down.
Excuses, you have many of them and you know it. There are millions of reasons you find that emphasize your passivity; those are actual excuses while you’re seeking a way to justify your inactions.
What would happen if you gave up the search for constant excuses?
Let’s think about it. Jay Rifenbary, a leader in professional development and training, gives a generous gift of knowledge in one of his books called, “No Excuse! Incorporating Core Values, Accountability and Balance Into Your Life and Career.” He writes about his training at the United States Military Academy, also known as West Point, where the soldiers were forbidden to apologize for their mistakes or failures, whether individual or collective.
This basic principle was introduced in order to encourage them to be strong and to take personal responsibility. The “No excuse, sir,” caused Jay to be decisive and to act and so changed his way of thinking; he decided to apply it in his daily life. The results were striking. He discovered that while he had excuses and more excuses and other circumstances he would never come to a satisfactory result.
What does this tell you? It’s time to seek no excuses. Yet, you still tell yourself, “But my colleagues discourage me, I don’t have enough money, I’m alone, life is difficult, there are no opportunities…” when you hear the negative self-talk radio tuning on in your mind, pause, breathe and tell yourself, “Stop, I seek no excuses.”
Remember that everything you tell yourself as a reason not to act and to do nothing is just an excuse. Dispose the use of excuses and take responsibility.
Write yourself a note, a principle that you will follow daily. Place it in a prominent place.
“I do not look for excuses. I look at facts as they are. I act according to the situation.”
Once you decide not to blame your circumstances for your inactions or actions, you will feel stronger and stronger. Then you can harness the energy and your talent in a certain direction and live as you would like. And to model your life as you wish, it is even more important to have a purpose and a direction. Once you know where you’re going, you will have the energy to even move mountains.
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Remember that achieving every little goal along the way brings infinite satisfaction and reinforces faith in your abilities.
Man needs development, a change to wake up, to achieve something new.
Thus, it is extremely important that you set goals. And when you achieve one, you will outline another one.
Making a plan will help you reach these goals in a certain sequence and act step by step in a much more efficient way than if you were to act without direction or simultaneously in different directions.
What motivates you and keeps your flame alive? Are you looking for excuses for inaction? How do you deal with those inaction?
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About The Author
Dr. Mila is an internationally known Business and Life Strategist, Decoder of Human Potential, and Change Catalyst. Her mission is simple: 1 million people around the world to Master The Blank Page™ and intentionally live a life of significance. I million people to create the greatest stories ever told, see the future in front of them, fill the pages ahead with matters of their heart, acts of kindness, and incredible stories of inspiration, and hope.
Originally published at medium.com