I grew up in a small town, with small town values and small town ways. My Mom stayed at home with us when we were young and as we got older she took on some freelance work to spread her wings and free her mind. I can only count on one hand the number of times she went away without us.
I guess that is why her practice of leaving us a note under our pillows when she was away was so meaningful to me.
In fact, it left such an impression on me that when I became a Mom I made it my mission to leave notes under my girl’s pillows when I traveled. I have spent a good part of my career on the road in consulting so that meant building into my routine extra time to write notes prior to leaving the house on a trip. The length of time I was away did not matter; just that I was not with them.
I am guessing at this point in my life that I have written hundreds of notes for them and I still do it today even if they are not as excited about them or if they don’t even bother to read them. If I was being honest with myself, I am superstitious about it now because I have gotten home to them safely each time I have left them.
At first my motivation was a delightful little surprise for them just before bed so they knew I was thinking of them and that I loved them. As the years have gone by and they have gotten older, it is now about a few kind words and a moment for them to know how proud I am of them in between the “Mom….you don’t understand” teenage moments. If anything were to happen to me while I traveled the last words they have from me are kind, loving and encouraging.
Why does this come to top of mind? Well….today marks the anniversary one of my daughter’s school mates passing away at the age of 18 after a courageous 10 month battle with Leukemia. The family had a Facebook page where hundreds of people left notes for the family throughout the journey…many close friends…and many more complete strangers who were touched by his story. While Ridge’s passing was heartbreaking, it also brought the community together and reinforced the following:
We sometimes get so wrapped up in where we are headed and where we have been that we forget to take time to enjoy where we are now
So what is the leadership lesson in all of this?
“from the board room to the family room…find time to write notes…make it a priority…do it consistently…I promise you….it will reap far many rewards than you could have imagined”
Last… but not least…on Monday, April 6th, 2015 about 2000 students of Corona Del Sol High School wrote their final notes to their dear friend Ridge on orange and yellow balloons releasing them into the sky. The image is overwhelming and inspirational. Notes can be written and delivered in all kinds of ways. Agree?
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