Taking the first step is a natural yearning, an innately hardwired part of development for infants/toddlers in their own milestones of growth. No matter how many times they fall down, they instinctively know to immediately propel themselves upwards and forward-facing — sometimes grabbing onto whatever supports are available to assist them in their laser-focused drive to transcend their insatiable desire to evolve. It does not matter to them how many times they topple over, bruise their knees or bump their heads; the desire to accelerate their own pace in this world supersedes any perceivable obstacles, disappointments or temporary setbacks they may endure before achieving their desired result.
Their focus is not on risk, failing, fear or questioning how long it may take them to succeed. Their only objective is to get out of crawling-mode to advance to independently walking and then momentously to running — running towards what it is they love; what mesmerizes and captivates their curiosity and sense of wonderment. And all the while, these ‘little’ powerhouse geniuses discovering their own way are cheered on, clapped for, encouraged and positively reinforced by those on sidelines; those who feel only immense joy for the child’s tenacity, resiliency, fortitude and spirit.
Witnessing one overcoming self-doubt, and one’s ability to relinquish fear, is wholeheartedly embraced. It is understood at this phase and level of the game we call life that adults are not supposed to be in competition with children’s accomplishments and successes and so, the foundation of unconditional love, support and encouragement changes. Somewhere along the way, all us children morph into adulthood and for a plethora of unfortunate reasons and circumstances adulthood can become synonymous with monotony, with complacency and with mediocrity.
Adults begin to settle. Dreams and passions cease to exist and become replaced by bills and obligations. The bright inner-light begins to dim, and the desire to remain hungry for adventure and self-exploration becomes viewed as selfish, irresponsible, and indulgent.
The clapping and the cheering become replaced by judgmental stares, quiet whispers and pointed fingers. Wanting you to succeed and grab life by the horns transfers into fear staring back at you by the on-lookers, the naysayers, the critics waiting for you to fall down, and hoping you might make the choice to stay down and want less for yourself, for it is ‘safer’ down there. It is in that space you are conditionally loved and accepted. A space where everyone gets to fit in, look the same, behave the same, think the same, choose the same. Everyone is your ‘friend’ if you allow yourself to have at least one foot firmly entrenched in the abyss of sameness and familiarity.
And be prepared that if you choose to decline this group’s membership invitation; this club whose fees total the cost of your soul’s purpose, your spirit’s desires, you honoring your own intended journey — be prepared to bravely walk alone!
As you begin to embark upon your North Star with that monstrous summit far off in the distance, be prepared to encounter the vultures, the incremental conditions, the sharp jagged rocks, the physical pain, emotional anguish of expended energies you must endure to navigate yourself forward on this quest.
The path you are on will twist and bend; the road is never a straightforward one. There is no tangible map, compass or survival kit. The required tools for your lonely journey are embedded within you — they are called intuition, mindset and inner-strength.
Everything you need is inside of you — not behind you and not outside of you — INSIDE OF YOU!
How badly do you want what you want? How hungry are you — really, truly hungry? How committed to the process are you? Who is holding the pen in your life? Whose story are you living? Whose voice are you listening to?
Yes, the higher the climb, the lonelier the journey, no two ways about that, however, your future self and your inner child will thank you and they both already reside within you. Make friends; best friends with these two versions of you, while re-claiming your love and respect for self as you climb that summit. You’ve got this!
Originally published at medium.com