The search for happiness is my personal quest and to be honest the journey is becoming more enjoyable and enriching with each passing day.
So here are a few more things I’ve learned along the way –
Phone a friend-In the mad rush of life we are so focused on ticking the right boxes that we forget the simple pleasure of ringing a friend and just talking without an agenda. It can be something as silly as sharing an inside joke, like I did recently with a friend where we both giggled to our heart’s content about an old classmate’s quirkiness. No one else would have found the joke funny but my friend and I did and Oh Boy! the laughter did us good and added a bright spark to our day. Even having a cup of coffee with a friend can be a great DE stressor and sure beats scrolling through social media and looking at people’s so-called-absolutely perfect lives.
“People look for retreats for themselves, in the country, by the coast, or in the hills. There is nowhere that a person can find a more peaceful and trouble-free retreat than in his own mind. . . . So constantly give yourself this retreat, and renew yourself.”― Marcus Aurelius
Mindspace of Happiness-I make a conscious and constant effort to create a mindspace of happiness. If this means that I have to avoid dealing with situations, that can’t be changed, that make me unhappy then I just do that. Simple as that! Like, my relatives are pissed off with me for so many imagined slights and insults, the biggest one being -that I made a success of my life and didn’t bow and scrape before them for any help, that it would just be an endless waste of time trying to placate them. Both sides would fail to to see each other’s point of view and would end up making each other unhappy. So I have chosen happiness over dealing with my relatives. As for my relatives, last I heard, they are still unhappy with me.
Dreams-In- Progress– I want to be an author, actor, talk show host, marry Rafael Nadal, travel, live in the United States, hang with Arianna Huffington, Oprah, Gloria Steinem and the Queen, dance with Mick Jagger, eat all I want and never put on weight…….the list of dreams is endless and the hard work to fulfil them is an ongoing effort. Some of my dreams have come true, some are partially true-I’ve met with Gloria Steinem and well, am writing for Arianna’s ‘Thrive’. Unless we dream, we can never achieve and when we fulfil our dreams the happiness that we experience keeps us charged up for our next dream. So the happiness cycle continues unabated. But if a dream is unfulfilled then do we let unhappiness take over? I don’t do that because there are so many dreams to pursue and besides, you never say never till your dying breath.
So, looks like our second instalment of ‘The Happiness Factory’ is underway and let’s see what the third instalment will bring to our lives.
Till next time-Live Life EmpressSize