Community//

The Game of Taking Things Personally

Rohini's Blog: If you find yourself saying, "Is she still going on about this?" It could be the perfect opportunity to look within, take responsibility for that internal reaction of resistance and discomfort, and see what more there is to be revealed beyond the contraction.

The Thrive Global Community welcomes voices from many spheres on our open platform. We publish pieces as written by outside contributors with a wide range of opinions, which don’t necessarily reflect our own. Community stories are not commissioned by our editorial team and must meet our guidelines prior to being published.
The Game of Taking Things Personally

It is so much easier to not take things personally with someone you aren’t close to. The lack of a close relationship helps you to keep your perspective and not make it about you. However, with people that you are close with, it can be hard to see the big picture and not feel hurt by their behavior even over insignificant things like dishes left in the sink. Angus uses a video game metaphor to point to what helps to have more inner stability. When you realize you are the gamer and not the game, it is easier to be in the game of life with less emotional upset. The gamer stance represents the impersonal. When we see we are the ones making it up, it helps us to be in the game of the personal with more grace and peace. And even if we can’t see it at the time, when we feel hurt by the behavior of a loved one, we can use our feelings as a reminder that we have temporarily forgotten who we are. And we can take action that will help us to remember to come home within ourselves.

Angus & Rohini Ross are “the Rewilders.” They love working with couples and helping them to reduce conflict and discord in their relationships by pointing them to their innate wisdom and understanding. They work with couples who are struggling and couples who would like to deepen the love and intimacy they already have. They co-facilitate individualized couples intensives that rewild relationships back to their natural state of love. Rohini is the author of the free ebook Relationships, and they are co-founders of The 29-Day Rewilding Experience and The Rewilding Community. You can also subscribe to Rohini’s weekly blog that includes their weekly Vlog on her website, rohiniross.com.

Share your comments below. Please read our commenting guidelines before posting. If you have a concern about a comment, report it here.

You might also like...

Well-Being//

It's Possible To Stop Taking Things Personally

by Caroline Jordan
Well-Being//

How To Stop Taking Things Personally

by Caroline Jordan
Community//

The Link Between Video Games and Stress Relief

by alex sems
We use cookies on our site to give you the best experience possible. By continuing to browse the site, you agree to this use. For more information on how we use cookies, see our Privacy Policy.