My dad biked to work every day because we couldn’t afford a car.
On Valentine’s Day, he biked home in the rain with a single rose between his teeth for my mom.
He worked long hours in the office and came home to hundreds of emails in the evening.
I grew up seeing this as the formula for success. We were first generation immigrants, working hard to fly on the wings of the American Dream.
Now, my dad is a founder who’s building something he believes in, working even longer hours. But it doesn’t feel like work to him. It makes him come alive.
And over the years, my view of work and its ‘rules’ changed completely.
The face of work is evolving as it always has, but at an accelerated rate. We’ve seen the rise of farmers, artisans, and factory workers to technologists and even 18-year-old founders. And now, machines.
With machines automating more of our work, how we spend our time is changing yet again.
Work already looks a lot different from what I imagined as a child, observing my parents. I took the ‘9–5’ (which really meant longer, grueling hours) at the office or in front of the computer at home as the norm.
In fact, the traditional office workday as we know it has existed for less than 100 years.
There have been many solutions proposed to technological unemployment, including universal basic income. For those who remain hungry, there will be more room for creativity, philanthropy, and the pursuit of passions. There’s a need for artisans again. There’s more freedom in how we spend our time. And so, more freedom to craft our lives the way we want.
You’re an alien looking at earth from another planet. Now, question everything.
To make money. To feed my family. To survive day by day. Because I’d die otherwise.
In survival mode, it’s impossible to think of anything else. Billions of people are in poverty, wondering how they’ll get their next meal.
They’re likely not reading this. And I know I’m too blind, too comfortable, too entitled to even try to understand.
If you’re fortunate enough to have a baseline of income where you can pay for your needs and lifestyle, at least at this point in time — what motivates you?
To pay off my student loans and debt. To save for retirement. So I can have a better lifestyle.
Because I can. Because my mom told me to. To prove something to myself.
To build something meaningful. To change the world. To create a legacy. For our future generations.
Because I love my job. I love my team.
To become a millionaire.
Because that’s what you do. That’s what everyone does. I’d be bored otherwise!
To grow and learn. To lead.
So I can get more girls. Obviously.
Then ask yourself: But why.
What if you didn’t need to work for money — or for any of the things above? Then, what would you do with your time? Maybe your answer is the same thing. Or maybe it’s completely different.
You can negotiate most of the rules of life.
A lot of unnecessary suffering is created in the mind.
Where do most of the pressures you put on yourself come from? Are they YOUR pressures? Society’s? Your parents?
How much of what you do is to avoid failure, avoid looking bad, avoid pain, avoid losing control? Avoid looking weird?
Some of the greatest myths in life are fear-driven. Money is scarce. Opportunities are scarce. Resources are so scarce, we must fight each other to the death.
In fact, there’s abundance everywhere. There’s abundance, but it’s grossly, unevenly distributed.
If we collectively choose to have it, we can live in abundance.
Unfortunately, we haven’t chosen it yet. It’s much more complicated than that, but our nations, our banks, our institutions seem predominantly fear-based.
You don’t have to be, though.
Where’s your truth? Find YOUR voice. It may be buried.
Distinguish between what you really want and what you say you want. What do you want? Now ask again. Not your ego. Not your fear. Not even your body. What do YOU want? And even if you think you know, you may not know yourself as well as you think. I sure didn’t, and I’m still figuring it out.
Admitting the truth is scary.
This year, I realized…
I don’t want to be an executive at an awesome tech company.
I don’t want to manage and lead a large team.
I don’t want a ladder of promotions.
I don’t even want to be a well-known CEO.
But that’s where my career track was pointing me. I had a dream job. I was learning and growing alongside amazing leaders. I poured my heart into the mission.
At the same time, after a particular week of working from 7am to 2am the next day to hit multiple ‘urgent and time sensitive’ deadlines, I had my first anxiety attack. I could barely speak or move off the couch for hours.
Despite the stress, I found beauty and tremendous growth in the hustle. When our startup failed, I internalized it like I had failed. But I’d been hustling for someone else’s dream. When it died, I questioned what all of that was for. Even if I’d poured my heart into it, I could never bring my highest self to work because it wasn’t my dream.
But today, I feel terrified to have left the thrilling, empowering, and (relatively) stable life I had working at startups in Silicon Valley. Now, it’s completely up to me to bring in my next paycheck. Knowing I could fall on my face at any moment is paralyzing.
But then, I remind myself why I did this in the first place.
I want to be free. I want time to live and pursue my passions.
I want to create something from scratch and say, “I built that.” I want to be my own boss. I want to work on projects that make me come alive. To align my daily work with my life’s work.
I want to build and inspire a global community. And meet people who thrive outside the status quo.
I want to go rogue.
Even if it means being a little weird.
I want to invest in health, relationships, experiences, and growth.
I want to be an entrepreneur of my life.
Though I may not work 12+ hour days anymore, I still hustle. I usually start my workdays by 7:00am since I’m a morning person, and there’s no commute. I have calls with clients on various time zones late at night. Most days, I still eat lunch at my ‘desk’.
I try to pursue work that excites me. Not all of it will, of course. But where I focus is a choice, and I’m the only one accountable .
The future of work is choosing how you want to spend your life. It’s when your passions, strengths, and values align and become your unique contribution to the world.
It’s trusting that you can create something that you believe in. Business always will follow the art of your life.
Let abundance, not scarcity, drive your dreams.
The future of work is creating more out of your life.
What kind of work makes you come alive?
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