The Frame We Put Around Our Circumstances

I have realized that in life, the frame we put around our circumstances is what makes all the difference.

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I have realized that in life, the frame we put around our circumstances is what makes all the difference. Do we see our cup as half full or half empty? Do we focus on our shortcomings or on our gifts?

My three children are all Irish dancers and they have learned through years of competitions to point out the improvements rather than the score. Because if happiness was only found in a win, they would miss out on so much learning and growth and joy along the way.

Whether it’s about weight loss or climbing the ladder at work, relationships with your significant other or the dynamics between parents and kids, it will never be perfect. We are all lovable, hot messes of dysfunction. But if we try our best and look at the bright side, we are moving in the right direction.

Former professional baseball player Wade Boggs once said, “A positive attitude causes a chain reaction of positive thoughts, events and outcomes. It is a catalyst and it sparks extraordinary results.”

Extraordinary results from ordinary actions. As long as we keep getting up when we fall.

As Rocky Balboa once said, “Every champion was once a contender that refused to give up.”

You are a champion. As long as you believe you are inside. Frame every day with that outlook and the outcome is inevitable. Because the X factor is you.

Photo credit: Raphael Schaller

The frame we put around our circumstances.

Originally published at on May 30, 2017.

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