Community//

The Existential Depression: How to overcome it and be happy again?

An existential crisis is a moment in which a person questions their existence and begins to think that life has no meaning, asks if this life has any meaning, purpose or value. This existential void is usually associated with depression and / or a sense of “life without meaning.” Some questions that a person with an existential crisis can ask […]

An existential crisis is a moment in which a person questions their existence and begins to think that life has no meaning, asks if this life has any meaning, purpose or value.

This existential void is usually associated with depression and / or a sense of “life without meaning.” Some questions that a person with an existential crisis can ask themselves are: “Will I be forgotten one day? What is the meaning of all my work? 

Do you think your life does not make sense? Do you feel an existential anguish and doubt? Most people experience an existential crisis when they realize that one day they will die and understand that their life and the days on this planet are not infinite.

For centuries the human being has asked himself, what is the meaning of my life if I am destined to die? It is a question that gives vertigo and that has tried to solve in different ways.

The people of the majority religions – Jewish, Christian, Muslim – have the faith that after this life there is another that will be eternal and that therefore their spirit will always live.

However, most people do not think about death until they become aware of it and begin to reflect on mortality.

When does this happen? Normally with the death of relatives, partners or highly stressful events, such as loss of housing, employment or separation of couples.

After these events, these crises can occur and are often followed by anxiety, panic or depression.

The loss of meaning and hope in the existential crisis

The one that has why to live can face all the comas.-Friedrich Nietzsche.

According to the researches and the experiences of humanity, it seems that giving meaning to life helps, a lot, to lead a happy life, to want to move forward and overcome obstacles.

It is remarkable the ability of some human beings to overcome obstacles and not surrender despite all the misfortunes that may occur. However, other people find it more difficult to find that meaning and it seems that when they do not have it, they give up.

Inspiration to overcome an existential crisis. The case of Viktor Franks

Viktor Franks describes this very well in his masterpiece The Man in Search of Meaning. This book deals with his description of Logo therapy and the narration of his experience as a slave in a Nazi concentration camp. 

If you currently suffer from an existential crisis and want to overcome it, I strongly recommend that you read it.

In the concentration camps of the Second World War some people surrendered, while others survived, despite the low probability of doing so due to the appalling health conditions in which they found themselves.

They ate a piece of bread a day, they wore very little clothes in the middle of winter, shredded shoes, wet and of smaller sizes and the guards or foremen beat them often. 

Their situation of bad health was so extreme that their organisms began to consume their own proteins and they literally found themselves in the bones.

There are a couple of particularly remarkable experiences that Franks comments on in his book:

1-There was a person who dreamed that the March 31, 1943 would end the war. However, that date arrived, the person contracted an illness and died a few days later.

Would it be coincidence? Franks, one of the most intelligent and trained doctors and psychiatrists I have read, suggested that the death of this man was due to the loss of hope of leaving the concentration camp. 

2-He had a patient who had lost his wife and who no longer found meaning in life. Franks simply asked him a question: What would have happened, doctor, if you had died first and your wife had survived him?

The patient said that his wife would be extremely sad, to which Franks replied: “you have saved her all that suffering; but now he has to pay for it by surviving and mourning his death “. 

After that answer, the patient took Frank’s hand and left the office. That is to say, suffering ceases to be in a certain way suffering at the moment in which it finds meaning.

He also describes how some prisoners felt apathetic, without feelings and even some who did not care if the Nazis hit him. They felt so hopeless that they did not care if they were mistreated.

The case of loss of extreme hope of its history in the concentration camps is that of the men who committed suicide by throwing themselves at the electrified fences. 

However, Viktor Franks knew how to find meaning in his hard experience…

How to overcome the existential crisis

Franks comments that he often thought about his wife and that is what many times saved his life.

He hoped to see her again, though later he discovered that he had died, as did his parents.

He also found the sense of writing his experiences and his theory about Logo therapy. He already had a book written, but when they reached his first field they took it away. But he did not lose hope and took notes about the ideas he was going to have to write it again later.

To overcome an existential crisis it is necessary that you find meaning in your life and it will normally be based on other people or on objectives to be achieved. That is, you will find a meaning to life through some personal relationship and doing things that please you.

Some people fail to establish positive personal relationships (family, friendship or partner) and set the sense of having power or earning money. However, this could lead to unhappiness and an endless cycle.

The material does not satisfy, which leads to want more material things to feel satisfied. This search for material sense can lead to a very transient happiness and feelings of emptiness.

The Vistek stated the following:

«The meaning of life is always changing, but never stops. According to logo therapy, we can discover this sense of life in three different ways: (1) performing an action; (2) having some principle; and (3) for the suffering. »

The next two points refer to performing an action and having some principle. Suffering refers to accepting that the meaning of life is simply suffering for some reason (like the previous patient who suffered for the death of his wife).

Follow your passion (perform an action)

I am currently going to salsa classes and some people tell me: “Even though I’m with the flu, I came because it’s the best of the day” or “I cannot be a day without dancing”.

It is likely that what makes the most sense in the lives of these people is dancing (or at least one of the things that gives them meaning). It may seem strange to you, although it is the reality, when the rest of your day consists of working in jobs that displease you.

Why do some older people get up at 7 in the morning, go to the gym, take a walk and are active all day while others no longer find the sense of living?

In my opinion it is because they have found new passions to live for. Leonardo da Vinci, one of the most passionate and curious men to acquire knowledge, continued working on new projects until shortly before his death.

When you connect with that external passion it will be absurd to ask you about the meaning of life. You will not even understand how it is possible that you did it before.

Personal relationships and work are the key (have a beginning)

If you have an existential crisis, are you doing something that makes you feel good? Do you do a job that you like? Do you stay with your friends? Do you socialize?

What gives meaning to life is that you feel that you are valuable for something and for someone. Personal relationships and work are the key. So:

  • Find a job that you like and that you find meaning. Would it make more sense for your life to work in an NGO? Or teach teenagers?
  • Work your personal relationships. This book may help you.

Understands that life has times

As Viktor Franks himself affirmed, life is not constantly happy, but there are situations and times when it is normal to feel discouraged.

However, finding that meaning in your life, would overcome a situation of deep and constant sadness.

Other teachings of Franks

– We have to stop asking ourselves questions about the meaning of life and, instead, think of ourselves as beings whom life continuously and unceasingly inquires about. Our answer has to be made not of words or meditation, but of a straight conduct and behavior. Ultimately, to live means to assume the responsibility of finding the right answer to the problems that this poses and to fulfill the tasks that life continually assigns to each individual.

-Live as if you were already living for the second time and as if the first time you had already acted as wrong as you are now about to act. »It seems to me that there is nothing that can further stimulate the human sense of responsibility that is maximum that invites us to imagine, in the first place, that the present is past and, secondly, that this past can be modified and corrected: this precept confronts man with the finitude of life, as well as with the purpose of who believes in himself and his life.

    The Thrive Global Community welcomes voices from many spheres. We publish pieces written by outside contributors with a wide range of opinions, which don’t necessarily reflect our own. Learn more or join us as a community member!
    Share your comments below. Please read our commenting guidelines before posting. If you have a concern about a comment, report it here.

    You might also like...

    Frank and Helena/Getty Images
    Well-Being//

    How to Have an Awesome Existential Crisis

    by Wendy Wisner
    Community//

    Feeling Like a Nonentity? This Could Be a Good Thing

    by Anan Tello
    Community//

    Putting Our Purpose in Motion: The next-step catalyst to becoming leaders with meaningful lives

    by Joscelyn Duffy

    Sign up for the Thrive Global newsletter

    Will be used in accordance with our privacy policy.

    Thrive Global
    People look for retreats for themselves, in the country, by the coast, or in the hills . . . There is nowhere that a person can find a more peaceful and trouble-free retreat than in his own mind. . . . So constantly give yourself this retreat, and renew yourself.

    - MARCUS AURELIUS

    We use cookies on our site to give you the best experience possible. By continuing to browse the site, you agree to this use. For more information on how we use cookies, see our Privacy Policy.