What we can learn about life from bees…..
By Dani Wallace, singer, motivational speaker, coach, author and leader of the I Am The Queen Bee Movement helping women across the world Show Up, Wise Up and Rise Up
As someone kind of obsessed with bees and the awesomeness of them, I am constantly amazed by their intelligence, their focus and their drive. I founded my business on being inspired by Bee Movie when, sat chilling with my kids I heard the line ‘bees don’t care what humans think is impossible’ and have been driven by this mantra ever since.
Ever since that day I have been determined to show people, and to be honest, to show myself, that we CAN achieve so much more than we ever thought was possible, if we choose to.
Don’t get me wrong, this isn’t some woo woo manifesting approach of believe it and it will happen, that’s not my bag. I am very much a work hard and make your own chances kinda girl – but what we need to remember is that what we think is impossible is in fact just our brain’s filter system. It’s the brain’s way of keeping us safe, from going after things we don’t truly believe we can achieve, therefore it is trying to protect us from disappointment.
I have learnt a lot about how the brain works over the years as a high level leadership trainer working with teams within massive corporate organisations and studying the science of it all through NLP. This knowledge enables me to have discussions with myself so that I can challenge the initial resistance and work through it.
Right now I am in the middle of organising one of the biggest events I have ever pulled off – a charity event which involves bringing together 12 celebrities and 12 high profile entrepreneurs in a marathon online chat-a-thon to fundraise for domestic violence charities. It is going to be epic, it is going to be awesome and it is going to provide so much value but Jesus there have been a million times I have had to have a chat with myself to convince myself I can do this. Who am I to reach out to celebrities? Who am I to ask global entrepreneurs worth millions to give up their time to chat to me? Who am I?
Then I remember what Will.i.am said to me when I auditioned for the Voice, didn’t make it and was so crushed I thought about jacking it all in -“Who are you to NOT share your gift with the world?”
And I thank him for linking arms with me, to give me that real talk I needed!
When my imposter raises its ugly head, and it still does, I am now able to give it a big kick in the shin- but what helps me do this is my network.
It is not just my own mental strength that helps me ‘achieve the impossible’ but the mental strength of those around me who I rely heavily on. I have worked hard to create a network that means a lot to me, both in followers I attract and in peers I admire. Being surrounded by like minded people is everything to me and linking arms and coming together to create impact is what I love doing the most.
Usually I would be running events all over the country right now, bringing people together to share knowledge and inspire and this lights me up, as part of my bigger mission to show people that they CAN do ‘the impossible’. To help others fly, who feel they shouldn’t be able to, and to show them that despite any odds stacked against them or obstacles put in their way they can, and will fly anyway is my driving mission.
I have overcome a lot in my past and am choosing to fly anyway.
Festooning is when bees come together to create something new. When they are constructing new comb or repairing old comb they hang together between the frames that they are building, in a single line, linking arms. With The Big Festoon this is exactly what I am setting out to achieve, a linking of arms to offer support to those who need it.
The Big Festoon will run from 8am to 8pm on 5th June at https://www.facebook.com/thequeenbeedani/ and I hope to raise mega bucks for the charities Women’s Aid and galop as well as support fellow entrepreneurs in the process. I’d love it if you would come and link arms with us.
Let’s all be a bit more like bees and remember –
“According to all known laws of aviation, there is no way a bee should be able to fly. It’s wings are too small to get its fat little body off the ground. The bee, of course, flies anyway, because bees don’t care what humans think is impossible” – Bee Movie 2007