I recently asked 107 women what they do for work-life balance. From several previous conversations I have had in the past, I knew that this was a burning issue for working women, but I had NO idea how burning it really was. Almost unanimously, the feedback I received from this question was “I have no idea what that even means”. I can totally relate to this response and remember wondering years ago how on earth I could be successful as a mother, wife, volunteer and a full-time career woman.
My breaking point came when I suddenly became a single mother (how I became a single mother is a totally different post all together) and my independent but ever slow-moving son was trying my patience on this particular morning (he did this almost every morning, but this particular one resonates with me as the worst ever). My attempts that specific morning to get two little humans organized and out the door for school so I could get to my job on time were not working. I was already late for work and the kids had already missed their bus. I had a meltdown like I have never had before… literally, melted to the ground in tears asking my little’s if they wanted Mommy to lose her job because of them. This was my lowest of lows in the work-life balance struggle that many women have and I needed to figure this out. Not only for my own sanity, but for my children who needed me more than anything.
I could go on forever telling you horror stories about my work-life balance struggle… like the day my after-school babysitter was sick and I rushed out of a work meeting, sped across the city to find my wee four year old son sitting on the front steps of our home waiting patiently for his mom to get home….or how about the day that I sent my daughter to Junior Kindergarten to only get a call from her teacher that it was an A day not a B day (did I mention that my daughter went to school on B days AND…this happened several times that year). Something had to give, that’s all there was to it! I began taking baby steps towards regaining control of my life and creating positive habits into my daily routine to prevent crashing again. Don’t get me wrong, I still have days where I feel extremely unbalanced (I do not wear the crown of the Work-Life Balance Queen, trust me), but those days are now fewer and farther between.
These some legit solutions are what worked for me to start balancing my life like a fearless fabulous leader:
Lastly, let go of the guilt and that little voice in your head that says that balance doesn’t exist. Girlfriend, it does exist!! Your life is exactly the way YOU create it, and if you don’t take the balance bull by the horns, nothing will change. YOU have the power my friend….USE it!