Change is so easy yet so hard. It’s always easier to look at your friend and see what they need to do to change. However when it comes to ourselves, it is all that more complicated and difficult when it’s our own attitudes and beliefs and mindsets we need to shift!
Many people will continue with behaviors that don’t seem to serve them as they have underlying beliefs that keep perpetuating these patterns. However when the pain is greater than the reason why you are carrying on, then they will decide to change. Humans seem to need suffering to springboard off.
Everything you think, do and create is you; you are creating it and it’s your responsibility to change it.
To make a couple of things clear from the outset; there are difficulties and there is suffering.
Difficulties come from your life; they come out of choices, decisions you make, or situations that are happening in your life, maybe a divorce, court cases, job losses, mortgages, etc. Whereas suffering, comes from our minds, how we think and how we respond to situations. For example, one person may enjoy money and having a mortgage; another may feel a chain around their neck. One might feel suffering and loss after a break up for some time; another person may let it go and move on easily.
Suffering is in the mind. It’s how you react to, and think about what’s happening in your life. And this is all within your power to change. Start seeing suffering for what it is; your mind telling you stories.
Sometimes we are in a storm in a tea cup and we need to get out of the cup and onto the table and see everything as a whole picture, which will help to put things in perspective.
An important step is to start by recognising your thoughts, and then you can start changing them. Because you can’t change what you can’t see. That’s why awareness is always the first step.
So start to notice your thinking, kindly pull yourself up, and change it each time something negative comes up.
If your mind has gotten out of control, here’s some things you can do to take back control:
Find peace and stillness within yourself somewhere, somehow, to quieten your mind and let your heart and your soul speak. When it does, listen. And let that soft gentle murmur come forward and be your guiding light.