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Stop Seeking Permission

Procrastination and indecision are a form of self-sabotage

Photo by Michael Mroczek on Unsplash

Where are you seeking permission?

Consider this…have you ever asked someone else what they are wearing to an event so you could dress the right way?

Have you ever asked if anyone else is ordering an appetizer when you are out for dinner because you didn’t want to be the only person having one?

Or have you ever found yourself asking your significant other their opinion on hiring your next business coach even though you have your own business money?

A few years back, I really needed to buy myself a good chair for my office. I asked on Facebook for recommendations and someone suggested I get myself a Herman Miller. Now…a Herman Miller chair starts at around $800.

I remember telling my husband I was going to buy this chair and he told me not to. He said I should just buy a chair from Amazon. So, I started looking for chairs on Amazon but I didn’t see any that I liked. I really really wanted the Herman Miller.

A few days later, I told him again, I need to buy a chair. He responded, “I told you there are tons of chairs on Amazon.”

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Still I waited.

A week later, as he was leaving for a round of golf I started to complain about my back. He turned and looked at me and said “Why don’t just buy that chair? You know it’s the one you want.”

In that moment I realized I was seeking permission from my husband to do what I really wanted.

I was seeking permission or approval (call it what you want) to invest $800 on a chair.

But in actual fact, I didn’t need permission from him to buy a chair for my business, I had more than enough money but for some reason, I was seeking approval to make a decision.

This happens with business owners all the time!

Procrastination and indecision are a form of self-sabotage.

Instead of waiting for someone to give you permission to live your life your way (or run your business the way you want), you need to grant yourself permission.

Create awareness of your own patterns and behaviors and call yourself on them.

Ask yourself, what would you do if you were single?

What would you do if other people’s opinion didn’t matter?

What would you do if you listened to what you really want?

#Procrastination and indecision are a form of self-sabotage.

While speaking at an event, I fell into the permission trap once again. After speaking in heels all day, I really wanted to dress down and wear jeans and comfortable shoes to the cocktail reception. The internal dialogue in my head was filled with “should” around the appropriate way to dress.

To cut clear of the dialogue I asked myself one defining question, “What would I do if other people’s opinions didn’t matter?”

I would dress however I felt like dressing and not care about seeking permission from anyone else. 

You, my friend, should do the same.

In life or in your business, where are you waiting for someone else to grant you permission? What do you REALLY want to do? 

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