There is no more precious gift to give our children, our partners and those we love than our time. If you look at the faces of kids who are spending time with their parents, there is a quiet kind of joy that emanates from them. They are in possession of something real, something soothing and alive. They look nourished in their little souls.
We spend so much time with lifeless things, but time with those we love is different. It animates and enriches both the giver and the receiver, and it is lasting.
When we give it to our children it builds its own kind of bank account. When they have stores of it inside of them, they have something secure to draw on when they need it. And stored up time yields dividends just by being there. They will have it to invest, to sustain them….literally to live off of. And so will we, when they move into their own lives, it is the time we have spent with them that nourishes us. As Antoine de Saint-Exupéry, says in The Little Prince …”It is the time you have wasted for your rose that makes your rose so important.”
This is probably the biggest challenge facing parents and people today. Before technology was put into everyone’s hand, time was what we had. Not “quality time” but just time. Time to go on errands with our dad or mom. Time to hang around the kitchen. Time to get bored and have to come up with something to do. Time to know you’re in the same room or within “finding” distance of the people who love you and from whom you learn what love feels like.
Life today is fast paced, it’s more exiting, there are certainly more choices but you need to carve out time so that those choices have meaning to you, so that you can think, hope and wonder. So that you can sense and discern what might fit for you.
This season, while you are busy making New Year’s resolutions and setting goals, why not make one of your goals to find time, time to be, time to do nothing and time to experience that nothing filling up with a different kind of something.
This year along with losing five pounds, going to the gym more often and developing healthy habits…..develop this healthy habit. Find time and spend it with those you love and those who need to feel you there, to feel your presence. Find time to be there next to them, with them, sharing the experience of being together.