“Be strong and NEVER ever give up. As I tell my kids — failure leads to success, there is a yes around the block — always keep trying.”
I had the pleasure to interview Eileen Fisher. Eileen is a New York-based Matchmaker and Relationship/Dating Expert. Eileen has been setting up couples as long as she can remember. A matchmaker since college, she initially worked in NYC’s Garment District before heading officially into matchmaking. Being a natural “yenta,” she soon realized her love of connecting people was greater than her love of textiles. She is currently a partner in Elite Connections International, New York’s most exclusive matchmaking agency with over 24 years of unprecedented success. “Matchmaking just comes naturally to me, I just have it in me,” Fisher said. “Matching is my joy, my love, my passion to help find people their true match. Happiness is a choice, but there are steps that people can take to be happy. I am looking for my clients to find that certain someone to make their days and nights a little more enjoyable. I want to help people find that happiness in their lives.”
Thank you so much for doing this with us! Can you tell us a story about what brought you to this specific career path?
I do this because it just comes naturally to me; it is my passion. I didn’t have to go to school for this; it was like developing as a mother; it’s an innate skill you just can’t explain.
Can you share the most interesting story that happened to you since you began leading your company?
Since I started working as a matchmaker, people are now following me and listening to me for my advice. In addition, I post clever tips a week on my Instagram, and now other matchmakers are watching my page.
Can you share a story about the funniest mistake you made when you were first starting? Can you tell us what lesson you learned from that?
So, I always meet my clients at the same place in New York City. One day, I was meeting with a potential client. After about 20 minutes, he said, “I just want you to know that I am not (the name of my potential client), but I didn’t stop you because you’re so good at your words.” I know you’re wondering if he became a client? Nope, he was married.” The lesson learned is to always check and verify the name and driver’s license of the prospective client before you start working with them.
Another story: So, I go meet this client who is 74. He tells me how he has a 37-year-old girlfriend and that it is what he wants. He felt he wanted a young woman. I let him speak and I listened intently. As time went on, I started to set him up with some women who were about 50 years old. You won’t believe this, but he is happily living with a 64-year-old woman. You see, through this journey, we learned what really made him happy inside. Maybe if he didn’t meet me, he still would be wasting his life on young women and not what really made him happy.
What do you think makes your company stand out? Can you share a story?
I think we are a good team. I am so east coast, and my partner is so west coast. She has patience. When I go crazy, and I can’t a match for a new client, she always jumps in and will help find people for us.
Are you working on any exciting new projects now? How do you think that will help people?
I am currently working on a TV show with a partner from LA that reflects my life as a matchmaker. It’s not a dating show. It is a potential scripted series. It’s exciting, and people will be able to connect with a character like me, as I help people find love.
What advice would you give to other female leaders to help their team to thrive?
Be strong and NEVER ever give up. As I tell my kids — failure leads to success, there is a yes around the block — always keep trying.
What advice would you give to other female leaders about the best way to manage a large team?
I would always say be humble and honest, and again, don’t give up. Always put yourself in someone else’s shoes and think how someone might be feeling. Listen to others.
None of us are able to achieve success without some help along the way. Is there a particular person who you are grateful towards who helped get you to where you are? Can you share a story about that?
I guess I would say I have a muse, a friend who I share stuff with so I can learn more life lessons and always reflect.
How have you used your success to bring goodness to the world?
My success is bringing people the opportunity at a chance of love; teaching them tips on what they have ending wrong; in their lives; helping those to find a happier place; teaching those that failure is not divorce or a break up, it is just another part of their story and journey to happiness.
What are your “5 Leadership Lessons I Learned From My Experience” and why. (Please share a story or example for each.)
o Happiness prevails sadness.
o We all evolve; let life take its course and accept
o You must find that special someone; you partner should be your friend for life, and you can grow old with them
o Smile, you can’t imagine how it can change your day or someone else’s
o Be a good listener, you can’t believe what you will learn
You are a person of great influence. If you could inspire a movement that would bring the most amount of good to the most amount of people, what would that be? You never know what your idea can trigger.
I love this question. I wish I could empower every adolescent and teach them — even the millennials — how if that one girl hurt you or you lost a friend or that boy broke your heart. It’s all blip on your map. Don’t give up. Don’t let that one girl make your happiness go away; there are so much ahead. People can be mean and it’s mostly about themselves. A girl should feel good about who they are inside. Don’t let others hurt you because there are actions.
My 15-year-old daughter has the heart of gold. I don’t think there is a better heart than hers; I don’t know how I did it, but when others affect her, she still prevails. I hope to continue to teach her and with each choice she makes, to keep on pushing forward. A lot of people’s meanness comes from who they are not, who you are.
Can you please give us your favorite “Life Lesson Quote”? Can you share how that was relevant to you in your life?
We all evolve and change. The example is me — I have become someone that I was not before; I love who I am now.
Some of the biggest names in Business, VC funding, Sports, and Entertainment read this column. Is there a person in the world, or in the US with whom you would love to have a private breakfast or lunch with, and why? He or she might just see this if we tag them 🙂
Jane Fonda — OMG — lunch with her would be amazing. Wow! I would tell her she embodies strength, wisdom, sex, kindness for ALL WOMEN. She is independent, and exudes confidence. She is what I would love my daughter to be — as strong as you can be and don’t give up.
Originally published at medium.com