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Simple Advice For The Heartbroken

We’ve all been there. Here’s how to bounce back.

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Which is all of us at some point…

I loved sitting down with Lodro Rinzler, author of the book Love Hurts, for an interview on Untangle, the podcast from Meditation Studio. The heartbreak experience is so universal; from the little heartbreaks we experience every day to the big, crushing heartbreaks that shake us to the core.

When we’re hurt, we may hesitate to let our guard down again, especially if our heart feels like it’s in tiny pieces. Our first impulse may be to scoop up the pieces, seal ourselves off and build an armor to protect us.

Love Hurts provides so many tips and tools that can help us strengthen our resilience, so we can keep our hearts open and heal at the same time.

Here are 5 Tips from my interview with Lodro:

1) Know that you’re not alone

When we’re heartbroken we feel like we’re the only one in the world that is going through what we’re going through. The truth is, heartbreak (for better or worse) makes us human. We all experience it…whether it’s the death of a loved one, the breakup of a relationship or even the end of a job.

2) Share your story

When Lodro was writing the book, he invited people to come talk to him in 20 minute sessions over a 2 week period. He asked each, “What is your experience of heartbreak?” Some would tell him about their last breakup. Some would say their Cat died a year ago and they are still grieving. Some would say they just lost a job. Then he would ask them, “How are you feeling right now?” He saw some of the joy that emerged just from sharing their stories. When we share our stories, something shifts in us. It doesn’t mean the pain goes away, but giving it voice can be helpful.

3) Know that how you feel now…will change

The only way through our heartbreak, is to sit right in the middle of the “terrible devastating life-changing” experience of it, and to know that it will change.

4) Try to Meditate

Meditation introduces the pause button…so we react on auto-pilot and revert to bad habits when we’re feeling awful. Acknowledge what you feel, sit with it, know that you are heartbroken, and notice how your feelings continue to change over time.

5) Have faith

You’ve probably been heartbroken before…and healed. Perhaps you can keep the faith that you will, in fact, heal again. You can be with your strong emotions knowing that they will eventually soften.

Originally published at medium.com

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