According to an Online Dictionary:
A sleepover is an occasion of spending the night away from home, or of having a guest or guests spend the night in one’s home, especially as a party for children.
On the question of whether to allow kids to have a sleep over, people have differing opinions.
There are those who will tell you sleepovers can never happen for them. In his Book “Raising Girls”, James Dobson, was very clear on this. No Sleepovers at all. The reasoning behind this is that times are more dangerous than they were some time ago. He, and others with this same opinion, believe that kids can be exposed to so many things during a sleep over.
On another side are those who will say sleepovers need to happen. They advocate sleep overs because according to them, kids need to learn to be independent and make decisions for themselves in the absence of their parents. They also believe that kids should be allowed to explore.
In our Moms Achieving Purpose Facebook Community, Group, we had this discussion and the recurrent factors from there, I will highlight some of the points raised below:
“It is a fun and exciting concept for children. However, the world as we know it, has changed. I never allowed my children sleepover when they were younger except at my sisters’ and close family friends. Friends from school are No, No. You have to exceptionally careful about who you allow to have access to your priceless inheritance. If the family is good, do you know about the weird cousin who visits them. We as parents should set the tone as well as boundaries for our children’s fun. Make sure you are comfortable with where you leave your children.”
“Sleep overs are a no, no- as regards school friends. The world is far crazier than we want to believe. Let everyone stay in his father’s house. May we not have regrets over our children, all in d name of modernism in Jesus name. What do they want to discuss/what games do they want to play at night that cannot be played during day time? As for relations & family friends, I’ll take that in my stride! It all depends….. May God give us discerning spirit & the boldness to say ‘no’ & not sacrifice God’s precious heritage, all in the name of sentiments.”
[ Mom B]
“It’s a no for me….except at my mummy’s place.” [Mom C]
I’ll like to see issues like this as one of those disputable issues – issues that are based on personal opinions.
These are issues that we should never allow to cause division among us.
So, the issue of sleepovers is just like the issue of whether kids should be allowed TV time. There’s no right or wrong, it depends on several factors.
And permit me to say that no matter the decision your family takes concerning this, it’s your family’s choice and as long as it suits your particular situation, you’re fine with it.
Remember that sleep overs go both ways too. Will you allow other kids to come sleep over at your home?
In my opinion, the issue of whether the kids can be allowed sleep overs should be determined by certain factors:
You also want to be sure that if they are coming into your home, these factors are considered also.
Whatever decision you arrive at, don’t forget, your kids are your treasures. Never cast your pearl before swine. Before you leap, make sure you look well. You don’t need to sacrifice your kids on the altar of friendship, they are too precious to be toyed with.
Listen to this episode of my podcast, MomPods with Oluseye, MomPods Episode #20 – Should Your Child be allowed to go for sleepovers?
What’s your experience like?
Do your kids have sleep overs?
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Originally published at momsachievingpurpose.com