Inclusivity for ALL has always been an exceptionally important part of my life, and is also one of my fundamental core values for who I pride myself to be as a fellow human being on this planet. We have all encountered experiences in our lives whereby we can personally identify with and relate to what it has felt like to be stigmatized, rejected, judged and excluded. It has become more paramount a concern for me for what I would wish this world to one day aspire to become at the humanistic level since becoming a parent. It would be naive of me to believe that my children will never encounter instances or experiences of being on the receiving end of cruel and unfair injustices, themselves. The thought of this, especially while wearing my maternal hat, is de-spiriting to say the least. However, what would be more-so unsettling and disconcerting to me is if it were my children who were the ones perpetrating discriminatory actions and unacceptable behaviours toward others. Children as we know, are sponges and soak up whatever it is they are consistently exposed to. Any opportunity afforded to each of us whether we are parents or not, when we can demonstrate and role-model love, kindness, respect, acceptance and compassion for all as opposed to defaulting to the ugliness found in the alternative type behaviours – is a win win for all of human decency.
I attribute much of my own personal growth and development and love and appreciation for life, to those who are uniquely different from me and who have embraced me into their lives regardless of the fact that I am a Caucasian, Heterosexual woman. In both my personal and professional life, I have welcomed the gift I have continuously been gifted, and by so many… who have generously and willingly expanded my views, educated my mind, and who have fearlessly enhanced my knowledge base as a result of their life experiences being completely unlike my own, which is absolutely beautiful!
Talking about love, intimacy, connection, kinship, relationships, soul-mate, twin-flame love, identity with friends and clients whose sexual orientation differs from that of my own doesn’t make me gay or a lesbian or confused… rather, it opens up the floodgates for increased awareness, sensitivity, insight, compassion, inclusion, and overall acceptance as it should be. My criteria for who is embraced into my life has absolutely nothing to do with sexual-orientation, gender-identity, colour of skin, religious affiliation, age, or the alike….being embraced into my life, however, does have everything to do with how you treat others. I have zero-tolerance for people who spew hate or who denigrate others or who incite violence – those are my staunch non-negotiables as for determining who is or who is not granted permission and entry into my life thus my children’s lives. This is not to say or suggest that I am oblivious to the underlying reasons for why the mindset of marginalization, oppression, and intolerance exists. This particular mindset has been birthed and adopted for a whole host of reasons such as inter-generational ignorance passed down from one generation to another. It comes from the culture of people needing to feel a sense of belonging even if the only place they believe they will be accepted and embraced is one which is predicated on shunning and demoralizing others. This is more indicative of their own self-loathing, fears, lack of self-worth than those who they outwardly appear to reject and discriminate against. This is entrenched in the need to heal from ones own hurts, abuses and injustices perpetrated on each of us. The current state of our society seemingly appearing off-centre, disconnected, splintered and fractured does not derive from the fact we are a global community of individuals who look, dress, speak, eat, faith, and love differently – it resides within the off-centre, disconnected, splintered, and fractured relationship we have with ourselves. People who healthily, respectfully, integrally, love and embrace themselves for exactly who they are are not the people who feel vengeful and resentful of others. In fact, the more committed we each are to challenge our own biases, raise our own standards, consistently remain committed to doing the daily work required to heal our own selves – one then comes to realize quite quickly how little time and energy remains leftover to find intentional fault with others, blame others, hate others, or behave inhumanely toward others. To intentionally hurt other people no matter the reason, circumstance, justification or rationalization is essentially an assault on our own souls. To damage another human being is to essentially damage yourself. No one wins in that scenario. When I hear of incidences related to hate crimes and hate speech, one of my first thoughts that springs to mind is that someone is clearly grappling with an awful lot of unresolved personal pain to have voluntarily inflicted pain upon another. I feel compassion for all involved parties and not because I condone the behaviour on the part of the person who lashed out – I feel compassion for that person because if they were committed to the ongoing journey of self- healing and self-love and had more tools in their toolbox or positive role-models in their lives perhaps the path they were on would be a completely different one hence sparing innocent people from unnecessary scaring.
So although June is Pride month, I not only love and celebrate my friends and family members who are part of the LGBTQ community – I love and celebrate the same people and all people of all diverse groups every day of every month of every calendar year. My wish for all of us is for this world to find peace and healing. My wish is for every one of us to find peace and healing within ourselves so that we may all enjoy in the shared global experience of harmonious living.
Originally published at livingfearlesslywithlisa.com