10 Ways to Know a Bossy Child From a Potential Leader
It’s so common to see little three and four-year-olds telling their peers and adults what to do with such ferocity you wonder where that gumption came from. It stops being cute when they keep demanding their way and you find yourself helpless to curb their appetites for getting what they want from others all the time. They expect their peers to play what they choose, follow their rules for as long as they want until they change the rules to suit them or change the game.
Given they’re only three or four, maybe there’s something positive going on that you don’t want to shake or curb too quickly. Maybe these are future organizers, leaders, captains, and go-getters who will do good for the world. How do you know the difference between bosses and leaders? By ages five and six, you can tell the difference. These are ages when developmentally empathy should be coming into play.
Ten Ways to Separate Out Little Bosses from Prospective Leaders
So if your preschooler bosses his friends, later you may ask if he thought about how some of the other kids were feeling when he got his way all afternoon. This may be a new notion and he may not be capable of answering right away but you’re steering him, not shutting him down. You’re guiding him, not punishing away what may become a source of later accomplishment.