I learned that one of the best types of love is self-love.
I’m not talking about being conceited. I’m talking about healthy self-respect for you. If you don’t have respect for yourself, the world won’t respect you. If you don’t love you, no one else can truly and fully love you. Appreciate the beauty that God has put on the inside of you. When you fall in love with you, the whole world will fall in love with you too.
Too many people place their self-worth in other people’s hands. There are millions of people who live off of other’s compliments and validation. My nugget for you regarding this is that you are not a parking ticket. You don’t need to be validated by others. The fact that the Creator of the Universe values you and loves you more than you can imagine is enough validation and enough cause to feel good about yourself.
For all the single people out there, when you learn to truly love yourself, that’s when you’re the most attractive.
When you have low self-esteem, you give off a needy and desperate vibe, and you scare away any potential suitors.
“The funny thing is when you start feeling happy alone, that’s when everyone decides to be with you” – Jim Carrey –
So many people think that they need to find someone to complete them. If you need someone to complete you, you are going to enter a destined to fail relationship because that is too much pressure to put on another person. No one can truly complete you except you. You need to find completeness and wholeness as an individual before meeting your soul mate.
When two halves come together, it’s a disaster. But when two happy and whole people come together, that’s magical.
If you don’t love yourself, you can’t expect others to love you either. Loving yourself also means taking care of yourself, physically and mentally.
From a physical standpoint, you have to take care of your body. Get enough sleep every night. Drink enough water. Exercise at least three times per week. Avoid processed foods and foods that are high in sugar. You can’t be your absolute best when you’re feeling sluggish and lethargic. You won’t have magical days when you depend on 4 cups of coffee to keep you awake. All that will do is lead to incredible crashes and tons of anxious nights.
A lot of people don’t love themselves because they’re not happy with the way they look or because they are not satisfied with certain physical features.
I often hear things like, “I wish I were taller.”
“I wish I was a different race.”
If God wanted you to be taller, He would have made
you taller. Be proud of your ethnicity! God made you that height and ethnicity for a reason, and you should fully embrace it. Learn to love every single physical feature you have. Love your eyes, your nose, your lips, your face, your hair, your hips, your curves, and your body type. You are made in the image of God, and He doesn’t make mistakes! You are beautiful and perfect just as you are!
Another way to truly love and take care of yourself is to maximize your alone time. It’s very easy to not realize that people can absolutely drain your energy. There are a lot of individuals out there who are energy-sucking vampires. When you don’t take time to be alone and recharge, you will burn out.
During this alone time, I highly recommend meditation, yoga, going to the gym, doing a hike outdoors, watching the sunrise and sunset, seeing your favorite movie, getting a massage, doing cryotherapy or float session, visiting a chiropractor, etc. There are so many things you can do alone that will revitalize you. Take advantage of this time. Do what you love and what brings you joy.
People often tell me that they don’t have time. When you truly love yourself, you prioritize your wellbeing and make time for yourself.
I learned a very powerful phrase, and I’m so excited to share it with you.
That powerful phrase is just one word and one syllable. It starts with an N and ends with an O.
“No.”
You have to learn when to say no. A huge reason why people are so anxious is that they say yes to every event, yes to every gathering, yes to every function that they know they don’t have the energy for.
Saying no in order to take care of yourself is one of the most profound and freeing things you can do. Nothing will suck your energy quite like having too many commitments that you cannot stick to.
So let’s practice saying this out loud together.
“No.”
That had to have felt good!
Get in the habit of saying ‘no’ to things you don’t
have the energy for. At the same time, make sure that when you do commit, you honor your word.
I want you all to understand that you are valuable. I want you to know your true worth. You are amazing. You are magnificent. There is no one else on this earth like you. You are one of a kind.
When you realize your value, and how special you are, you will walk around with newfound confidence. Having confidence, and self-love has so many benefits.
Being confident leads to more happiness and joy in your life. The more self-confident you are, the happier you are with yourself, and you naturally enjoy more of what life has to offer.
When you are confident, people notice and are gravitated towards you. You attract blessings by default when you are full of self-love and confidence.
Having confidence and self-love means that you are on a high vibration. This energy is contagious and magnetic. This type of energy leads to happiness and peace.