Self care is like gardening. Our emotional, physical and spiritual wellbeing needs looking after. Self care is about regular maintenance.
Without some weeding there is not enough room for the seeds to grow into plants, and for the plants to stay strong.
The same principle applies to us, our personal development and growth, our energy and resilience.
Have you ever felt like you are losing touch with yourself? Or have you ever felt like you do not know yourself anymore?
Losing connection with our inner drive and motivation is common and normal.
Do you recognize any of the following?
These can be signs of depression, which can occur at different levels of severity and for different lengths of time.
All of us will probably experience it in our lives, when positive energy has been ‘de-pressed’ from deep inside of us.
All that and a lot more can contribute to a gradual build up of unprocessed feelings like fear, anger and grief.
Before we know it, we have started carrying a heavy weight, which takes energy. And life will go on making further demands on our emotional, mental and physical resilience.
Neglecting self care for our emotional health is like neglecting a garden (or window box).
Weeds will grow and with time not enough room or light is left for other plants to develop. Soon we can no longer harvest or enjoy, what we had originally planted. Nutrients are missing, weeds get out of control and we are embarrassed to admit, that this is our plot. The land will become unrecognisable.
The longer we leave it the more time consuming and harder clearing the weeds will become:
We cannot ask someone else to sort out our mental health for us.
We can ask for help and encouragement.
But we have to do job of emotional self care ourselves.
Counselling, therapy, mindfulness, meditation, joining a group… these are all ways of emotional self care, taking charge and dealing with the situation.
Whatever may have accumulated over time can be explored; connections made between past events and how we feel; ghosts put to rest; sadness, fear, resentment finally expressed; tears of sadness or anger shed and a relief felt as the load gets lighter.
Through this process of self care we gradually start to
During very dark hours, hope and change can feel near impossible. But in time the process of ‘emotional weeding’ and emotional self care can restore a plot of land (or a window box) to a canvas of peace and new opportunities.
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Originally published at karinsieger.com
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