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Rising Star Emily Eruraviel: “I would love to help people to understand men and women in abusive relationships”

I would love to help men and women in abusive relationships and help others to understand them. I used to never understand why people stayed in abusive relationships. Why not just leave right? So many of the people in these relationships want to leave and physically they can but mentally and emotionally it seems impossible […]


I would love to help men and women in abusive relationships and help others to understand them. I used to never understand why people stayed in abusive relationships. Why not just leave right? So many of the people in these relationships want to leave and physically they can but mentally and emotionally it seems impossible even though they know they need to. I want others to understand that the more they are hurt by their significant other the more they want to please the person and defend their actions. What makes it even harder on a lot of these people is the fact that they will not leave until ready and as others watch it happen they tend to judge and question what’s going on. This ends up causing these individuals to stay in the relationship longer because in a weird way the person abusing them is also always there for them. So I would like to raise awareness on this subject. To teach others to be there when the person is ready, to not pressure,to not judge, and not to alienate them. It may be the middle of the day or could be the middle of the night but when they make that decision to leave and call someone it’s a huge blessing knowing they have people to count on.


I had the pleasure of interviewing Emily Eruraviel. Emily is an American actress who has worked in both TV and film across the US.


Thank you so much for joining us! Can you tell us a story about what brought you to this specific career path?

Thank you for having me! I didn’t decide until 2015 that acting was something I was interested in and wished to pursue. Acting isn’t something I feel I chose so much as it chose me, as cliche as that may sound. I was a stay-at-home wife and mother for pretty much my entire adult life. My whole life took a turn and when the opportunity presented itself, I ran with it. I packed up and moved to LA which began a beautiful snowball effect landing me here!

Can you share the most interesting story that happened to you since you started this career?

There are many interesting experiences so it’s hard to pinpoint one in particular. From not knowing anything about LA or acting when I headed out there to perhaps simply blessed meeting people on set and finding out how they got started, as well.

Can you share a story about the funniest mistake you made when you were first starting? Can you tell us what lesson you learned from that?

I have made mistakes and a funny one would be when I had several auditions on the same day and I went in speaking German having mixed my auditions up. OOPS! I most definitely learned to take time to breath. Excitement can kill it just as much as nervousness.

What are some of the most interesting or exciting projects you are working on now?

I have worked on some great films…such as Bleed American, which is screening for the first time in February, and Every 21 Seconds. But also several interesting shows, such as Conrad and The Knights End; along with a couple commercials. Several of these are ongoing.

Who are some of the most interesting people you have interacted with? What was that like? Do you have any stories?

I have met a number of interesting individuals: beginners, oscar winners, amazing directors, great PAs who work so hard behind the scenes and so many others. However, I would say learning from everyone has been a huge blessing.

Which tips would you recommend to your colleagues in your industry to help them to thrive and not “burn out”?

After studying a lot of successful careers and breaking it down mathematically I realized most don’t get a breakout role till about 10 years in. Ten years of hard work and dedication to their craft. That alone helps me not burn out.

You are a person of great influence. If you could start a movement that would bring the most amount of good to the most amount of people, what would that be? You never know what your idea can trigger. 🙂

I would love to help men and women in abusive relationships and help others to understand them. I used to never understand why people stayed in abusive relationships. Why not just leave right? So many of the people in these relationships want to leave and physically they can but mentally and emotionally it seems impossible even though they know they need to. I want others to understand that the more they are hurt by their significant other the more they want to please the person and defend their actions. What makes it even harder on a lot of these people is the fact that they will not leave until ready and as others watch it happen they tend to judge and question what’s going on. This ends up causing these individuals to stay in the relationship longer because in a weird way the person abusing them is also always there for them.So I would like to raise awareness on this subject. To teach others to be there when the person is ready, to not pressure,to not judge, and not to alienate them. It may be the middle of the day or could be the middle of the night but when they make that decision to leave and call someone it’s a huge blessing knowing they have people to count on.

What are your “5 things I wish someone told me when I first started” and why. Please share a story or example for each.

  1. There is no one way of succeeding; everyone has their own journey. I’m on my own journey which is likely completely different from everyone elses. Something that works for me might not work for you so keep an open mind.
  2. Make sure you focus on yourself and improving your craft first and foremost. Networking and everything else will do no good if you aren’t good yourself.
  3. Do not start with a party life, it will kill your career fast. I, myself, attended a lot of networking events but would drink soda in an alcohol glass.
  4. Arnold Schwarzenegger’s six rules to success are something I still follow and would definitely recommend it to others.
  5. You are the only YOU out there! When you think of the greats you realize there isn’t another one like them. So do not try and be like someone else, not matter how much you admire that person; be 100% yourself because that’s the only way to stand out.

Can you please give us your favorite “Life Lesson Quote”? Can you share how that was relevant to you in your life?

“ You need to understand that life isn’t what you’re given, it’s what you create, what you conquer and what you aim to achieve.” -Author Unknown

This is all stuff Ihave to remind myself of because there are days and even weeks when I feel the world is against me. In those moments, I look at what I have conquered and created and it restores hope. We all have stuff that could stop us, if we let it.

None of us are able to achieve success without some help along the way. Is there a particular person who you are grateful towards who helped get you to where you are? Can you share a story about that?

Honestly no, I had an army behind me when I started not just one person. I am still on my journey to success, though, and my agent, Tina Borek, has been a blessing. You can’t get far without an agent in this business.

Some of the biggest names in Business, VC funding, Sports, and Entertainment read this column. Is there a person in the world, or in the US whom you would love to have a private breakfast or lunch with, and why? He or she might see this. 🙂

Taika Waititi would most definitely be my person of choice. He is without a doubt helping shape the minds of our current generation with the movies he is directing. It would be an honor.

How can our readers follow you on social media?

Twitter, Fb, and Instagram @Emily_Eruraviel

Thank you so much for joining us. This was very inspirational!

Thank you for having me.

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