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Rising Star Barbara Wilder: “The most important issue of today is that humanity is literally killing itself for a currency they invented to establish power and influence among each other”

I think the most important issue of today is that humanity is literally killing itself for a currency they invented to establish power and influence among each other. You can quote me on that! It’s a foolish game humanity is playing but because the majority of us is either blind to it, brainwashed or afraid of […]


I think the most important issue of today is that humanity is literally killing itself for a currency they invented to establish power and influence among each other. You can quote me on that!

It’s a foolish game humanity is playing but because the majority of us is either blind to it, brainwashed or afraid of change, I am afraid we have a long way to go as a society. I’d hope we change rather quickly, so future generations have a shot at a worthy life as well.

We destroy and poison not only our environment. No, we destroy and poison our children’s and grandchildren’s environment. When basic needs like clean air, clean water and not chemically poisoned food become a luxury, we have to invest all our efforts into turning things around. I am hoping for more positive developments in regard to environmental protection in the future.


I had the pleasure of interviewing Barbara Wilder. She is an international actress, writer, and journalist born in Austria, currently living in Los Angeles.


Thank you so much for joining us Barbara! Can you tell us a story about what brought you to this specific career path?

As long as I can think back I was always interested in telling stories and I always loved to entertain. And the curiosity which comes with it is the one for people and human psychology. I believe a story is just as good as its opportunity of portraying a unique point of view of its individual characters.

I think I was five years old when my mother asked me what I want to become when I grow up. I told her that I am fascinated by a number of people, which had different professions, and I am having a hard time to decide only one. My mother’s reply was, “Well, then you have to become an actress. Like that, you have the possibility to experience everyone’s story”. I think this was the first time I consciously made the decision to become an actor. So, I asked my mother to join acting classes, to take me to auditions and to visit the theater regularly.

When I was thirteen I got booked into a local theater group and the rest is history.

Can you share the most interesting story that happened to you since you started this career?

Let me tell you as a woman, an immigrant and a member of the LGBTQ community, I have a lot of interesting stories to tell and these are stories I will continue to tell as an actor and writer. These are stories created by a lot of hardship and struggle but also some lucky encounters. I appreciate every single one of them as part of my journey and learning curve. It makes me proud to never have lost my passion, strength and most of all, my humor.

Can you share a story about the funniest mistake you made when you were first starting? Can you tell us what lesson you learned from that?

I came to Los Angeles with a bag and $700 in my pockets. I first stayed in a hostel in Inglewood (Backpackers Paradise) and regularly took the public buses to Santa Monica, Hollywood, and downtown LA to audition for unpaid background work.

Everyone who is living in LA and is slightly familiar with the entertainment industry is probably laughing out loud right now.

To everyone else I want to say, don’t do it my way. Save up money before moving to LA, get a legit apartment, search for a well-paying job on the side, settle in, sign up for acting/writing/industry workshops and then take it from there.

What are some of the most interesting or exciting projects you are working on now?

What’s exciting to me is to tell a story which portrays a point of view which hasn’t been shown before. I think the purpose of stories is not only to entertain but also to show an experience which brings new insights to a specific subject. There is nothing more needed than stories which give people the opportunity to gain new perspectives.

As an actor, you always need to bring a unique and personal approach to every character and that’s in fact what makes our job as storytellers so exciting. Every new project, every new character I am allowed to portray is the most exciting to me at that time.

But of course, my own projects, I am writing and producing dark comedies, are dear to my heart. We are just in pre-production of two movies as of right now. Number one is called “Sunday Funday” and circles around a couple which struggles with the expectation to start a family and the second one is called “Grief”, which tells the story of a mother who lost her daughter and cannot find her way back to life. We are still in the need of more funding for our second movie. So, we are pretty busy getting the production set up for summer/fall 2019.
 
 The genre of dark comedies and/or dramedies is most exciting for me.

I want to tell stories which make people laugh because they are so sad and which make people cry because they are so funny.

Who are some of the most interesting people you have interacted with? What was that like? Do you have any stories?

I had the pleasure to meet big stars like Jeff Goldblum, Matt Damon, Dave Chapelle and many more. You can imagine how surreal that felt for me in the beginning as a little actress from Europe/Austria. It definitely was very exciting standing and working next to celebrities, I only knew from TV.

Now that I live and work in LA for several years now, a lot of days on set feel like everyday work. So, I always try to recall this feeling of excitement when I first came here and I remind myself every day of my blessings to be able to experience all of these things, I never imagined I would.

Which tips would you recommend to your colleagues in your industry to help them to thrive and not “burn out”?

Passion never burns out while narcissism will eventually.

What I am trying to say is that it depends on your motivation as an artist if you’ll burn out or not.

Being an artist is a constant battle to reach an audience and to keep up with your finances. If you’re not born with a silver spoon in your mouth you will encounter hardship throughout your journey and you will not always get the feedback from your audience you were hoping for. These are two big factors which can break a person’s commitment to art. The point is, someone who chooses to pursue art as a career because they are longing for attention and fame will get discouraged sooner or later when they don’t get what they were hoping for.

An artist although who wants to contribute to society through art, who feels the need to have a purpose and an impact, who wants to create something which will benefit others will continue seeking a path, adjust, learn, improve and try again. Why? Because creation and contribution are what thrives an artist. It is an emotional, not a rational impulse.

You are a person of great influence. If you could start a movement that would bring the most amount of good to the most amount of people, what would that be?

I think the most important issue of today is that humanity is literally killing itself for a currency they invented to establish power and influence among each other. You can quote me on that!

It’s a foolish game humanity is playing but because the majority of us is either blind to it, brainwashed or afraid of change, I am afraid we have a long way to go as a society. I’d hope we change rather quickly, so future generations have a shot at a worthy life as well.

We destroy and poison not only our environment. No, we destroy and poison our children’s and grandchildren’s environment. When basic needs like clean air, clean water and not chemically poisoned food become a luxury, we have to invest all our efforts into turning things around. I am hoping for more positive developments in regard to environmental protection in the future.

What are your “5 things I wish someone told me when I first started” and why?

Someone should have told me when I was starting out. Unfortunately, I had to learn all these things the hard way.

1.) Don’t get stressed out by social standards!

Whatever they tell you is “trending” right now and however they want you to meet their expectations, don’t listen to them. Your uniqueness is exactly what the world is waiting for!

2.) You have time!

As long as you’re breathing you have the opportunity to create and be an artist. Don’t let anyone set a time limit on when you have to do something in your life and how long you can do anything in your life.

3.) Create your own content!

Don’t wait around for opportunities. Do what you want to do now in the companionship of like-minded people. Opportunity finds people who are creating opportunities. Don’t let anything stop your vision. If you have financial struggles, think about how to minimize your budget. If you can’t finish your project now, take your time. It doesn’t matter how and when you get there. The important part is that you’re making progress.

4.) Stay away from negative people!

If you are a kind, empathetic, creative person, you will attract a lot of people who don’t like your sparkle. They feel threatened by it, they are longing for it, or they simply don’t know how to handle it. That’s why they try to dim your light by telling you everything you can’t do and you can’t be. Don’t listen to them.

5.) Stay true to yourself!

Don’t lose your soul because it’s everything you are able to give. Remember your motivation, remember your ethics and morals and stand to them precisely. Be kind to yourself. Forgive yourself for mistakes but also hold yourself to a higher standard. There is no mistake which couldn’t make you a better person and there is no bad decision, which you couldn’t turn into something good. When you’re sick, physically or mentally, give yourself the rest you need. When you’re well, look for your happiness in everything you do. The reason why we need you to be an extraordinary person is simply because your art will reflect you.

6.) And then there is one more thing.

I’d like to share this story with you, I heard a while back.

A violin player wondered if he ever will be a master of his craft. “Am I good enough?”, he asked.

His teacher answered, “I don’t think so. You just don’t have what it takes.”

So, the violin player stopped playing the violin and started a paper company. Twenty years later he met his teacher again. “I asked you twenty years ago if I was good enough to become a master of my craft and you said no. So I started a paper company and I am very successful. So, thank you for your honesty but tell me, how did you know?” The teacher replied, “I didn’t. But the fact that you listened to me is proof you weren’t.”

I’ll just leave this here without any additional comment.

Can you please give us your favorite “Life Lesson Quote”? Can you share how that was relevant to you in your life?

My website www.BWilder.us greets my visitors with the quote: “If stories would stay on the facts, how would they get to the truth?” Art needs to break boundaries and needs the bravery to tell what people didn’t ask to hear. Humor is a crucial part of this because it makes a bitter pill easy to swallow.
 Stories have the purpose to expand people’s horizons.

That’s why it’s so essential to have diversity, the representation of all kinds of people in the most honest form in the entertainment industry. If we keep holding on to stereotypes, we’re all missing the point.

None of us are able to achieve success without some help along the way. Is there a particular person who you are grateful towards who helped get you to where you are? Can you share a story about that?

There were numerous directors, teachers and industry professionals who believed in me, and I am grateful for every one of them but I also believe that your family’s influence is the most crucial one.

My grandparents and my mother always supported me throughout my career. My parents divorced when I was 12 years old and that created a lot of struggles very early in my life. It caused estrangement between family members but no matter what, my mother always supported me as an artist.

Some of the biggest names in Business, VC funding, Sports, and Entertainment read this column. Is there a person in the world, or in the US whom you would love to have a private breakfast or lunch with, and why? 
I would love to work with creatives I admire and therefore I’d love to have lunch with directors, Tamara Jenkins, Alexandre Lehmann and Sara Colangelo who inspire me with their unbelievable commitment to telling stories about real people in absolute pure honesty and appreciation to their uniqueness. I also wouldn’t mind having breakfast with Jim Carrey either. I truly appreciate the way he approaches his characters, the way he makes us cry and laugh at the same time and for me, he is, despite his huge career and success story, one of the most underrated actors of Hollywood. “Kidding”, his new TV show, is truly an inspiration to me and there wouldn’t be anything greater to me as a storyteller than being part of a project as such.

How can our readers follow you on social media?

www.Instagram.com/BWilderUs

www.facebook.com/BWilderUs

www.Twitter.com/BWilderUs

www.Youtube.com/BWilderCannel

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