There are those magical days where I feel most in flow. My mind is clear, mostly free of negative thoughts. I feel present and grounded. Loving.
Today was one of them.
I worked all morning on a project for a new client I’m onboarding. Texted my dad to support him in his company’s fundraise. Had a great first meeting with a potential client here in Cape Town. Worked some more, went for a run. And smiled at people walking down the street.
Smile, and the world really does smile back.
By focusing outward and being my most giving and attentive self to those around me, the chatter in my mind quieted.
It was a long day, but I felt completely calm and energized.
It’s not like this every day.
When I’m stressed or busy, there’s an undercurrent of anxiety in my chest. I rush through the day and forget to smile and really look the barista in the eye.
As much as I’d love to live in flow all the time, it’s easy to forget that this energy is available to me. And it’s a choice.
Maybe subconsciously, I want to feel busy.
Maybe there’s a part of me that holds on to stress, because it gives me a sense of importance. So many of us are busy, too busy, and secretly proud of it. And sometimes, when I feel tired, I choose to retreat inward in an attempt to conserve energy.
This is human.
Whenever there is negativity in you, if you can be aware in that moment that there is something in you that takes pleasure in it or believes it has a useful purpose, you are becoming aware of the ego directly. The moment this happens your identity has shifted from ego to awareness. This means the ego is shrinking and awareness is growing. – Eckhart Tolle
Even on the busiest of days, we have time to smile at the world. We can take a moment to feel grateful.
The energy does come back.
When I feel connected to my inner self and present to whatever is happening in every moment, I feel so alive.
I wonder why I spend so much time wasting energy cycles thinking about the past or future. All we really have is this present moment, right now.
I can give strength, encouragement, and support to founders in the middle of a fundraise. And then give love to my family or to my friends. Whether it’s work or personal, it’s all coming from the same boundless energy.
It’s a deep sense of calm, an inner knowing that I can handle anything that comes my way. When I’m focused on each moment as it comes, I don’t need to overthink and worry about how I’m going to get through the day.
Where does this energy come from?
Instead of trying to reach towards this energy to get more of it, it feels more like a dropping in – going deeper into myself, deeper into who I am.
Here’s the secret. I’ve had this energy in me all along. All of us do.
It feels boundless because it comes from the direct source of who we are. We are all made of energy.
Then – Why do we block it? Why do we have so much difficulty letting it flow? And why are so many of us unaware of it?
“If you want to know the secrets of the universe, think in terms of energy, frequency and vibration.” – Nikola Tesla
Strangely, I seem to have more energy when I focus on giving it away. But then again, it’s not so strange at all. Because we cannot give away what we don’t have in the first place.
It comes from believing in others’ visions of their highest selves. Raising them up. Believing in them more than they believe in themselves on their low days. Reminding them of the wholeness that they already are.
This makes me feel alive.
At the end of the day, who I’m being matters more than what I’m doing.
Am I living my inner truth, being present, giving to others? Or am I going through the motions, rushing through my to-do list, forgetting who I am?
If I’m not living my truth and being my best self, then I’m wasting my daily activities and work. If I spend years working on something only to lose who I am and become blind to the beauty around me, that is not success to me.
When we’re present, we’re more loving. Giving. Creative. And when we operate from that place, we’ll find we do our best work.
I’ve been curious about the habits and mindsets that unlock this energy, so I can tap into it at any time.
Here’s what I’ve noticed works for me:
I used to think I had to relentlessly pursue this state of flow, to try to force it into being. How freeing is it to realize that it’s within us?
Our most natural state is flow. We are meant to be in flow. Just look at a child who has not yet been tainted by limiting beliefs, traumas, and social conditioning.
I know it’s easy to get sucked back into old patterns. But to be able to feel this alive and peaceful on an ordinary day of work and errands (without the influence of alcohol or drugs – simply good ol’ gratitude and energy)? Wow, it must be true. Paradise can be on earth, within us.
Life can be joyful, ecstatic, and freeing. All we need to do is drop in and be.