Say their name out loud.
Close your eyes, quiet your mind and breathe. Call them to you.
Picture them at their best…
Talk to them… tell them how you miss them, love them, wish they were here. Tell them what you need them to know, what is weighing so heavy on your soul. Release your pain. Release your burdens. Tell them. Tell them how you struggle, fear, rage, question, weep, wail. And tell them how you endure, how you carry on through the heaviness of deep grief, one step at a time. Whisper it. Shout it. Speak it. Tell them.
Remember the wishes they had for you and your life. Honor them.
Remember their dreams and the dreams you had for them. Honor them.
Remember the way they spoke… their tone, affect, cadence.
Remember their favorite…
Write about them.
Talk about them.
Create beauty in their name.
Treat yourself and others with kindness and compassion in their light.
Positive remembrance is so powerful.
They will continue to have meaningful impact on the world through you.
Their light will continue to shine through those whose lives they have touched.
Remember the nuances of who they were and how they lived.
Remember how you loved them and remember how they loved you.
Remember that they lived. They lived. They were here. Their life mattered. Their life matters still, forever.
Originally published at transformativegrief.com