You may have an intimate relationship that is sexual, or a non-sexual intimate relationship. You may have a sexual relationship that is not intimate, or a non-intimate, non-sexual relationship.
Platonic relationships can be emotionally intimate without sexual involvement. To make a long story short, there are endless combinations of intimacy between people.
And that is why intimacy can be complicated and confusing, even when both people are on the same page with the type of relationship it represents.Sexual Intimacy in Relationships
Relationship norms are changing. An estimated 25% of millennials are predicted to abstain from marriage throughout their lifespan.
Open relationships (an agreement that both people in the relationship are free to have sexual interactions with people outside of the relationship) constitutes about 4-9% of the population.
The broadening understanding of gender identity and increased acceptance of varied sexual preferences is part of a larger, more complex theme.
A lifelong commitment to intimacy with one person may feel like the norm for one couple, while the same circumstance may cause another couple to feel dissatisfied and stuck.
It is a deeply personal journey two people need to take; first individually, to explore one’s own needs, and then with one’s partner to be sure that the needs line up.Communicating About Intimacy
For a couple to sustain a relationship and remain satisfied with intimacy, communication must be a priority. Communicating about intimacy needs requires a willingness to be vulnerable with your partner.
Ask and answer the following questions to determine whether you are at a similar place regarding intimacy:
One of the important tasks in recognizing your intimacy style is paying attention to the cues you are receiving in daily life. Are there aspects of your partner’s needs that you can easily attend to?
Try to get in-tune with the way your partner responds to your physical touch and ask what your partner likes or needs in the moment.
Rather than assume your partner understands what you think or feel, try to be more expressive.
Improved intimacy levels can change the quality of a relationship when both people are able to express their needs with honesty and vulnerability.