Today we will dive into the mindset of a meaningful conversations
Lets First Define Meaningful vs. Meaningless
Meaningful-> Two Thumbs Up!!
- Making Someone Feel Loved and Worthy
- Improvement Without Expense of Someone’s Worthiness
- Enjoyment Without Expense of Someone’s Worthiness
- Positive Reinforcement
Meaningless-> Two Thumbs Down
- Gossiping about People and Trying to Instantly Gratify Yourself
- Making Fun of Someone Else Causing Them To Feel Bad About Themselves
- Judging People and Sharing That With Others
- Negativity, Envy, Self-Doubt
Fiction-> Having meaningless conversations will allow you to grow and learn
Fake News-> Meaningless conversations are a positive use of your time
Facts-> Having meaningful conversations will allow you to be freer and more fulfilled on your journey.
The opportunities of meaningful conversations with technology are at our fingertips. I have found that meaningful conversations enhance my enjoyment of the journey each day rather than the times when I participated in externally satisfying numbing conversations. Be fair to yourself and others by using meaningful conversations to awaken your numbness and instead enhance the enjoyment of your own journey and everyone around you.
One of the most toxic questions that almost always gets asked is, “So what are you doing these days?” The two possible outcomes of this question is envy and self-doubt because someone will have a better job than the other and both will have to immediately justify saying that they are doing well because who wouldn’t say they aren’t doing good? Each person will immediately feel like they are letting themselves and other people down if they don’t say something positive. We spend way too much time on useless questions that don’t really get us anywhere.
Why not ask? “How have you found fulfillment through making the world a better place?”
Well anyways, my Chief Positivity Officer Linda has found the magic pill for shifting conversations from meaningless and meaningful and I know it will help you get out of your comfort zone and make conversation as a tool to enhance your journey!
*If you want to have a meaningful conversation with someone, start out right by having an attitude of gratitude. Have an appreciation that the other person is choosing to take time out of their day because they want to spend it with you.
*The best conversations are the ones where each person feels like they were heard and understood. By the time the conversation has ended they will feel more deeply connected to the other person and they will go about their day feeling encouraged and inspired.
*Getting to this place with another person is simple, but a lot of the time, laziness or ego gets in the way. When you enter a conversation you need to rid yourself of all distractions, including wandering thoughts of what you could be doing with your time instead. The time is not all about you and don’t expect to get any more out of the conversation than you are willing to put into it.
* Instead, it should be a time where you listen to understand and learn something either about the person you are talking with or the intricate details surrounding a subject of mutual interest. When you are talking, the best way to receive a detailed response is to ask open ended questions such as, “How did this make you feel?” or “Can you describe why you feel that way? Good questions will always require the listener to stop and think for a moment to provide a thoughtful response.
*A good conversationalist will be a gracious host by remembering to keep their mouth shut and their mind open. They will have good manners and will not talk over the other person. Someone who is a good listener will do their best to pay attention to the details being discussed and not be thinking about what they will be saying next. They will not be competing for attention and make the conversation all about them by equating their experience to theirs. All too often we fall into the trap of telling someone how we shared a similar situation. However, as much as we think this is helpful, it is not because all experiences are individual and can never be the same. Always show the person in the conversation that you care by allowing yourself to get in and stay with the flow. Go ahead and tell your great stories and when it’s your turn, remember to keep listening. However, if your mind does happen to wander off, let it go, and jump right back in at the appropriate time. It’s always awkward when you try and catch up with ill –timed questions or responses.
*In the end, great conversations will be simply about two people who chose to genuinely connect with each other to listen and be amazed at what the other has to share. They are never about self- promotion and they will not choose to waste precious time talking about things that do not add value for the other person such as name dropping, dates, and other trivial facts.
BOOM!! Thanks Linda
Interested In Learning More About Today’s Content
Check Out My Podcast with Life Coach Tommy Breedlove on How To Choose Goodness For Yourself and How That Can Directly Impact Having Meaningful Conversations
Check Out My Discussion with US Navy Veteran Vince On How We Can Move Forward as a Nation Being Present In The Moment Having Meaningful Conversations Rather Than Numbing Ourselves Out
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