Positively Uncomfortable Day 23: Achieve The Right Perfection

You Vs. Yourself

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Today we will dive into the mindset of being perfect to being the best possible version of your authentic self with what you control every day. Perfectionism is toxic because we set such unrealistic standards to achieve that we get very comfortable at focusing on the destination. And in the process of chasing after our goals, we get very comfortable blaming ourselves, blaming others, and using substances as crutches as ways to eliminate stress get a break from tirelessly working at that specific goal. Let’s shift this mindset to focusing on one goal: Let’s make today great by maximizing enjoyment and improvement!

I used to be a perfectionist because I never wanted to lose. I always wanted to be better than everyone else and it was extremely externally glorifying. But because I wanted to be the best, I would put others down, act a certain way to please other people, and use pleasure crutches every single second I wasn’t grinding on achieving the highest GPA and finding the best title job I was qualified for.

I have bad news if you are looking to beat everyone else. There will always be someone who will have it better than you. And when you achieve the next destination, there will always be another problem.

That is why the only way to win everyday is to do you your best feeling mentally and physically healthy at your peak, improving and growing, and maximizing enjoyment of present moment experiences each day we are lucky enough to be alive. The only competition you truly have is yourself in this case and by doing your best you can go to bed each evening at rest knowing you have given it your all.

I was thinking I was the coolest guy in the world in the best shape of my life training for the NYC Marathon running 40-50 hours a week visualizing how I was going to crush the marathon in under 3:30 which would have been an amazing accomplishment. But as my hopes and dreams were crushed when I sprained my ACL and MCL at an indoor soccer game a week later, there was no way I was going to give up. I had to give my chance to start. And after starting on crutches, I came to one of the most important realizations of my life: We are all tiny ants in this big world. If I finished the marathon at 3:28, I still would’ve been behind 5,000 runners. But instead, I was competing against myself on the crutches, doing the best I could possibly do not comparing myself to anyone else.

Although I had my blue and grey BW crutches physically with me as a crossed the finish line, all of the crutches I had used to escape, numb, and drift further away from myself were gone. I still wasn’t guaranteed to achieve my goals and dreams, but by giving myself the best chance in my control to allowed me to feel fully free to embrace whatever is meant to be.

Perfectionism is only going to cause your envious self to be someone who you are not and spread negativity and hate which is only going to make this beautiful world less accessible to happiness. And in the process, starve your freedom, fulfillment, and happiness.

Being The Best Possible Version of Yourself Each Day is only going to lead you to waking up each morning being yourself, believing in yourself and shedding insecurities that are holding you back from finding your authentic self.

Have an amazing weekend being yourself without worry

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